Over the years, Indian men got a bad name all over the world. Most women complain about immaturity, insensitivity, and insufficient evolution of Indian men. The demand for dowry did not help the image at all. The news of burning bride turned most women against them. But ladies no one ever tells you about the advantages of marrying an Indian man. If only you knew the truth, you are surely to see them in a new light. Maybe even consider them when you are ready to take the plunge. If you are already married, maybe you can tell your friends about them. So here are the top ten reasons to marry an Indian man.
- 10. They come in a family pack. You get a mother, a father, a few sisters-in-law, half dozen cousins, and countless relatives for free.
- 9. They would never leave you. They get fat and lazy too fast and no woman will ever be interested in them.
- 8. You will never get tired of hubby improvement projects. They come with countless imperfections and guaranteed to be really slow learners.
- 7. Despite their crude exterior and rude attitude, they are docile at heart. They are well trained by their mother to follow orders from woman of the house. You are in control.
- 6. They would be grateful all their lives; all other 37 girls they interviewed turned them down.
- 5. They will be available all the time. They do not have any friends or social life or passion to keep them busy.
- 4. You never have to worry about their past girlfriends: most likely they never had one, or in the rare case they had a girlfriend, she is too busy erasing the memory.
- 3. You will earn the sympathy of everyone, even your worst enemy.
- 2. They will stop harassing you once you marry them.
And number one reason for marrying an Indian man
- 1. For the rest of your life whenever you say “I could have done better,” you will be right.
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jaded_mind
I liked the post..
But i must say that you haven’t had a taste of most Indian men these days. Points number 10 and 7 stay, but the rest….you could have done better.
Very typecast. Half of it is not reflective of the urban youth today. If you are hinting at the 10th pass Raju from Chapra district then I doubt if I can complaint.
lol..i agree with shrey…which world r u living in ….???
All I can say is that your observations are refelctive of the crude and unsophiticated image of the Indian male. An Indian male in 2008 is not as crude as you make him out to be. The village lout in Jhumritilaya, may be – but not the urban male.
The fact is like India, Indian male is typecast. India is all about cows, snake charmers (I havent seen one show in my whole life), dirty streets. That description of oriental India make us all cringe. Yes, we all know its partly ture, but all of us want to desperately show that the part that is untrue and not reflective of a modern India. We all want India to break out of the image mould.
Bashing the Indian male smacks of similar oriential mindset. Casting us as women beating, paan chewing, mother obsesssing, lazy louts is fashionable. Is it true? well partly – and that part is slowly vanishing. Please try, if you are unmarried, to ask for a dowry in the modern Indian marriage market and you will know how much India has moved on from the image you protray above.
The Indian female, I must admit, get the better part of the bargain. She is typecast of as the beautiful, submissive, clever, deft woman who is forever under the jackboot of the Indian male. Its not fashionable to call the spade a spade and point out the shortcomings of the Indian female. Calling the Indian female a nagging, unsophisticated dosent help readership, does it? But hey, you can do the same to the Indian male.
The western interaction with Indian male has been going on for much longer and hence opinions have been formed – some positive and others negative. The Indian female has not yet come under the scanner as yet.
I am sorry but your research sucks. You have just looked at one sefment or two. If you look at villages then that is how they mey be but very unlikely.
lol really good. Nice sarcastic nature
I just loved the 2nd one
Funny – and so true!
Most, not all, Indian men, both rural and mostly urban, are confused, insecure, pathetic, supremely lazy and cowardly; used to being pandered to by Mummmmy.
And of course most still believe that their Mummmyji’s are virgins. Idiots.
If I ever do marry an Indian man, he jolly well give ME a huge dowry.
( Important – I know a few excellent Indian guys who are v. courteous and wonderful. They are the 1& exceptions to the above rules!)
well whatever the perception you have about the Indian guys, i agree somehow. But not fully because now a days mostly are those who take care of themselves and are against dowry like me. I dont believe not to give and not to take even a single penny.
I care for my parents does not mean that i do all the things according to them.
If i get married to someone (either white or any Indian), as she will treat my parents i will do the same. But by the way i am not one of those who disrespects anyone.
Why white or Indian…why not hispanic???
You must be dreaming. Get out and about girl go smell the roses.
While we (men of indian persuasion and proud of it) will happily admit to some of your scarcastic generalisations, your comments presume, item number 7 for instance, is a bad thing. By the way my and your mother are women!! So yes our mothers trained us well and we are proud of it.
And by the way, when finally we come home to roost, the 37 interviewees are part of the show, we would have long since exhausted our natural resouces and grown tired of the pursuit of willing women.
So come on in, marry the indian men, we’ll look after you allright, along with the others, part time, that we still cherish and care for.
And oh, do join us in some meaningful intellectual conversation once, if, you can prise yourself away from the lip gloss and the flashy clothes.
i love this too,i’ve had intellectual conversations with some Indian men and i must admit indian culture has the highest respect for everything in this world,and i like the way they are very interested in the spiritual world ,a very beautiful race,at least the men have an amazing anatomy ,im a fine artist and i’ve made plenty of anatomical studies, i must say they have the most correct anatomy even if they are not tall,they are brave enough,
Awwwww look at all these men opposing this…
hahahhahha
I loved it
Good one!
my boss is an indian national and i find him really atractive.swear! he’s only 26yrs old but
he is so successful.i really like him..! hmmmm..kilig factor!
@SID he is successful but u r not…! so your liking is fine but does not mean due to your liking, if you fall for him and later you cry.
Dont see others successfulness but just think where u r?
I can’t say I agree with this list or maybe I just got really lucky!
-Honeybee
well …. not all indian men are the same just like not all men are the same… my partner is indian hes best thing that i could ever wish for in every way ..*smiles* he will be my hubby on 20th jan 2009…
“people need to look at bigger picture in life not just single indian men out”
You are right angel, I’m in love now with Indian man. He is very sweet and caring. He give me time even when he is so busy with work and study. He talks so sweetly and he is very kind. He makes me happy every day. I wish it lasts forever……The destiny for me and that Indian men is the best thing in my life.
uh oh the blog really caught me off the tract!!! I have an indian bf and we plan to marry next year but goshhhhh…should i???
If a blog like this is making you think, then maybe you should not!!
haha well said miranda!
run baby run while you still can
@eva .. DOnt you think that is teh question which will be best answered by u?
I can’t believe the violent reactions some people have expressed here. It’s clear that this is NOT a serious post and I don’t think the author was dumb enough to lump all Indian men in these categories. Loosen up people!
I actually came across this entry while I was searching for tips about interracial relationships, particular Indian and Filipino. My current boyfriend is Indian and we have talked about taking the next step. He doesn’t live up to the stereotype and we two are very happy together.
I’m marrying an Indian man for all 10 reasons…he’s worth every one!!! and our babies are going to be GORGEOUS like him and smart like me, Jewish
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The following comment by Simon from above should ironically be added to the list. I say “ironically” because he actually wrote it thinking it was a positive attribute;
“And by the way, when finally we come home to roost, the 37 interviewees are part of the show, we would have long since exhausted our natural resouces and grown tired of the pursuit of willing women. ”
In other words he’s saying; “yep, after dating and mating with willing women (as if willing women are bad?), we will return home to marry a good virgin picked out by Maa. Because Indian men should only marry virgins even if they are not virgins themselves”
Medieval attitude, and it actually PROOVES everything in the list!!!
you sound very white, always complaining about the other races. White men are the worst who beat their women and say it’s the other races that do it. Check the news you’ll see this to be true.
hello?…I know that’s another point but there are NO RACES…
and I can, from my very own experience, only second all the points from J H ….but I can also laugh at them, they are meant to be funny as well as to provoke…and obviously did very well looking at all these comments …and btw I anyhow love ‘my’ Indian guy
but please leave this boundaries creating, disharmony installing, and racism bearing term ‘race’ away….some groups of people have different behaviors, customs, attitude in general which could never apply for every individual, but as a stereotype they are also not ‘wrong’…other groups have similar or sometimes partly the same ‘features’ but the described ones it in their entirety quite well to Indian men in general….we are all ONLY human (in different senses of this word)
Indo-European
Aryans and Dravidians I
Aryans and Dravidians II
customs and traditions
Indian gens
we have all the same genoms
Rasse gibt es nicht
race a social construct, everywhere differently ‘defined’
I love your blog…it’s wonderful, refreshing, funny, thoughtful…congrats
Well, I am dating an Indian, and here are my points to marry him
1. I have never experienced such an attitude as to the precious flower in the paradise garden.
2. He considers golden jewelry and beautiful clothes to be the best present for a woman.
3. He does not know what is cellulite and surely how it is supposed to look like
4. He does not care if I have extra 10 kg of weight
5. He likes to eat, and he is an awesome cook
6. He used to get everything by a hard work and is not going to stop.
7. As they are used to high competitions in their universities, he used to study a lot, he is an expert in his field and one of the best at work.
8. 6+7 = prospective feature.
9. And I can add 10 and half of 7 and 4 from the post list ))
10. And FROM MY EXPERIENCE with Americans and Europeans, I doubt I could have done better ,)
And 11!
He will not wait until his children will become 10 to pay attention at them
I agree! Indian men are awesome! I only date Indian’s and I can’t wait to marry an Indian man!
OMG ur so right, my fiance is just like that, i love him to bits, i think everyone needs a guy like the ones we got
I never have to cook again lol
I get gold whenever i want it
He works so hard
He’s romantic
He’s sweet and kind n i love him loads
I’m a latina and I’m marrying my Indian boyfriend! And the above are just extras cuz there’s other 50 reasons we could add!
You can’t generalize “all” Indian men in your description of them! i have an Indian boyfriend and hes so amazing. maybe your reffering to those traditional old Indian men, have you been living under a rock? get to know one Indian man and I’m sure your going to change your mind.
Hello!
Very Interesting post! Thank you for such interesting resource!
PS: Sorry for my bad english, I’v just started to learn this language
See you!
Your, Raiul Baztepo
I was just searching why woman want to always marry wid Indian guy but not tends to have fling or short term relationship.
Now I know the reason, but I think almost all true
. Gud study
LOL! I wrote a post on why I had to find a firangi husband and your link came up in ‘suggested link’. Loved your reasons, read mine too!
WordPress has an evil sense of humour.
ive dated an indian guy and he was so nice, thoughtful and generous at first and then after he became so weird especially about his parents like everywhere we go the parents must not know it. And he’s 33 years old but he’s still under his parents rule!!
My Indian boyfriend, Sameer, is the best guy in the world!
This is an attack upon Indians to push for separation between Indian men and women. Indian men should learn to be racist and protect what they have. Don’t think of this as being nice, or that racism is wrong, it is the one thing that will enable you to see things clearly from your own national perspective. You have to understand, war is not always with guns, sometimes it is with psychology, and this is one such attack. This is to put Indian men down so that the Indian women think of them as weak, and women don’t like weak men. Racism against others, kept in check and used when it has to be, aggressively enables you to protect what is yours, and keep it. Hate can be a useful tool, look at what has happened in the west. You had better drop this bleeding heart crap before you are lost, because no one else like this. Suggest you examine the psychology of women. If you can’t keep your own women, don’t expect any other to accept you, they will only look down on you, as weak people, and unable to protect them. Racism is not a bad thing, it helps define your peoples interests. Remember no women no children, think hard about this.
Indian “man”, a guy who has fun the way he wants to while studying here, goes to India to get married because of his insecurities and low self-esteem, because they don’t have the confidence of marrying an independent, beautiful and smart American (or American-Indian) woman and of course, they cannot control her (ther prime wish due to insecurities). Remember they are mamma’s cry babies and are cheap (ask any waiter) . Go to India, marry an innocent virgin, bring her here, pay her allowance, keep her like a slave but expect her to be an American woman in bed.
I so agree with this post… i see this even with some of the ‘urban’ guys of today… I’m a young woman that has only seen the negative qualities in all Indian men that I have come across and trust me that is quite a lot
I resonate with this post and this reply; thanks, at least now I know I’m not alone.
All the Indian men I have seem to be real d’s… ; however like you said, “Despite their crude exterior and rude attitude, they are docile at heart. They are well trained by their mother to follow orders from woman of the house. You are in control”…
Hey there,
It sounds like u are saying this from experience. Believe it or not but I was raised in Canada and am married to an Indian man. I hate all Indian men. I think they are a piece of shit. I hate their mentality. Indian men are slaves to their parents and will never be able to defend their wives in front of their parents. I have seen that all- a wife’s roll in her husband’s life is to cook, clean, and have sex with. I have also seen that when my husband’s parents come here, I am totally ignored. He acts as if he is not even married.
mate ur soo wrong, how can u say this.
I really respect your research however it is very poor. I think you should be here to know what it is like. Stop looking at TV and the docs people show. I have lived here for over 28 years of my life and have not come across a single broken marriage . Every couple I have met is very happy. I guess you should relook at your 10 points.
jaded …
I pity you dude .No kidding , you need to see a psychiatrist .
Well my Indian fiancé must not be Indian then coz he aint rude, crude or lazy.
Where have you been living….pluto!
Please, the way I see it is you have had a bad experience with an Indian man, but guess what just like all men from all cultures there is assholes out there. Get over it, you cant bad mouth them all just for one jerk.
As for the last point you made…For me, you cant get better then my Girish, his a God send.
hey i have an Indian bf and he is the best bf I ever had! he works hard, had two degrees and earns well and spoils me like a princess. How can u say bad things… this is not cool! Racism should end! The world will always be a cruel place to live in if we continue such racism.
Don’t marry one. They’re selfish, inconsiderate and bring up stuff that happened ages ago in the present.
So kind of like American women when they get mad over something petty and stupid?
Well carrie carry on.
Maybe all those women complaining about Indian men being too controlling, boring and old fashioned should marry a Nigerian man. Then, they will enjoy hard, wicked , marathon most nights.
Oh my/… so true!!! I dated an Indian man for almost 2 years.. It was great at the beginning. But he turned out to be a serious drunk! Indians in America drink a lot in their homes, almost every night and weekend. He was very inconsiderate and a liar too.
But when he would talk to his parents on the phone he would sound passive-submissive and almost scare… This man was 30 years old. I am glad that I woke up and ended.
Sri Lankan Burghers are the same.
I love it! so true, you are so right Jaded_mind!! Well said!!
I laugh every time I read the list… hah
Refreshing!
I dated an Indian man. He promised to get married with me soon. But finally I knew, it was only drama. He is a hypocrite. He lied and played me. He is a CEO at a big company in India and well educated but he doesn’t have self esteem at all. He is player, cheater and fraud. He hurt me and my whole family much. He forgets there is GOD who’s always watching him. I will not write as to what he has done to me and my whole family because I believe in GOD’s justice. I believe in karma ( there is correlation between cause and effect ). So for ladies in the world, be careful and don’t trust Indian men, because they just give you suffering for your life.
is true shalimar?
i am sorry to know that..
just hope Allah will give you all best
Well, you were attached with an indian, dont u think if there was yr fault that without knowing to eachother ( i mean the family n all) you fall for him. You even did not ask about his family. See i am really strange that ppl make blame on particular nation and on national.
I suggest you that everyone is not like the same. As i am also an indian single 38 and into the IT sector and my thinking is if i fall for anyone then i wont hesitate to get marry.
Even i agree that few ppl are cheating and they only want sex they dont hv emotions. But you have to be carefuly coz when you enjoy then that time u dont think anything. So, be open and go ahead. Coz not every indian is such kinda bastard.
Yes,i hope God will give justice,he always does,just forget about what he did to you,vorgive and you will se that god does justice
yeah! like American men don’t do that.
None of any point is worth here. U can not say Indians are like this, every where all over the world you can find men like this even in USA, UK or Africa !!
I am married to an Indian after 6 years in love. He treats me like a princess and I feel we are soul mates! His parents were totally against him get me married and they even threaten to disown him! But from the beginning to now he still loves me the same and stands for me always. Jaded, If you were kicked off by one don’t think the whole country is like the same. Of course you could have done much more better
You’re a luckiest woman because he really loves you until now.
In my country Indians are famous as cheaters and criminals. They do many crimes in my country. Only a few are good persons. That’s why it’s more difficult for Indians to get visa from my embassy than people from other country.
To be honest, at the first time i didn’t think he is like that. First reason because he is well educated and second reason we have the same religion and he always said everything in the name of God.
Before I never though he is a cheater, player, fraud and criminal because he is one of executive board at the big company in India. But I’m totally wrong to trust and love him. Because he played me just to get something from my side. It was only drama. The fact he never loved me and he lied about our marriage planning. He hurts many people here. That’s why i said Indian men don’t have self esteem at all. And after everything is over between us, i can’t live peaceful anymore. i always haunt something because of him. Sometime i think it’s better for me to die. But i believe God’s justice. Let God will give him some punishment. And that’s why i warn every women whole the world to be careful with Indians and don’t ever trust them otherwise you will get suffering in your whole life.
Well! That man is psycho.And one psycho doesn’t mean whole battalion is psycho.Isn’t it?
Yes, it was my true story. Now my whole family hate everything about india, include indian movies. Thanks for your support to me, wi. It’s very meaningful for me. I shared it because i want to warn women whole the world to be careful with indian men. Don’t trust them even they say everything in the name of Allah and have a good position at office and have a good family background. Besides they can’t respect women…so i suggest every women to be careful with them. Wi, may i ask you something ?
How do you know that i am a moslem ?
Amit, please read my comment to Rushi below. About knowing each other, i always asked him to tell me about himself, include his job, his educational background and his family background. Because i really wanted to know who he really is. Besides i tried to find out about himself from others, such as from his office mates. He is well educated ( master degree in law ), has a good position at a big company in your country and has a good family background also ( from what he told me ). But after our relation is over, God show me his frauds. He is not a marketing manager as he always told me, but he is a HR manager. See he cheated on me from the beginning because he was just playing games with me. He always said everything in the name of God and pretended to love me just to get small gifts from me and after he got it he leaved me. He can buy it by himself if he wants because he has a good job but he prefered to hurt me and play God’s name to get it than to spend his money to buy it. That’s why i said he doesn’t have self esteem at all. Thanks to God i still can keep my virginity. Thanks to God i’m still virgin until now. Now i just can pray to God to ask God’s justice. Because i believe God and i believe God see and know everything. Also I believe Karma ( there is correlation between cause and effect ). And i pray God will always protect me and my whole family from his other crimes. You’re right not every indians are bastard but in my country most of them are cheater and criminals. Only a few are good persons. Indian have bad image in my country. That’s why it’s more difficult to indian to get visa from my embassy than people from other country ( read my comment to Rushi below ). Now my whole family hate everything about india, include indian movies.
@shalimar,
I respect yr trust on him but still i would like to tell u that dont hate anyone in this world, Coz world is so big and this hate wont give you anything instead it will drag you and separate you from others.
I am also an Indian and to be an Indian I am proud, because we dont lie, most of my family members are abroad. So, we can’t do such kinda things. I always believe if I do something wrong for anyone, that means someone will do the same with me and i dont want to regret for that.
People dont think the same thing, but they just want to enjoy momentarily but dont think of others emotions but when they face such kinda things then they might know.
But anyways…If he hurted you then I am sure that soon he will be hurt too. So, dear cool down and take the things easy now. You say thanks to GOD that he did not touch you, if he touched u then…? Did u ever think about that…?
a Muslim did to me what this indian guy did to you,and i even got pregnant and raised his child and i hope God will Kill him because even if he pray Allah,he is the worst scum,and if i was a man i killed him myself,so should i hate all Muslim in the world?I don’t.Should i hate you because you’re Muslim?I only Pray God He gives him what he deserves
Amit, why did you edit your last comment to me that u already sent ?
Anyway thanks for your suggest to me about this hate.
I also believe if i do something wrong to anyone, someday someone will do the same to me. And same with you i don’t want regret for that. That’s why i always said i believe KARMA. And also i said i believe God’s justice and let God will give him some punishments.
But it’s not easy for me and my whole family to trust indian anymore after my previous experience with indian but i have to say nice to know you, Amit. Always be a good indian man for everyone.
Hello Shalimar, well i also believe in Karma too and if a man if already hurted by someone then how can i hurt to anyone dear…!
I dont want if u hate to anyone but would really like if u keep normal with everyone. ok. So, what do u do shalimar and from which country u belong to?
When i was still with him, everybody around me always warn me to be careful with him because as i told you in my previous message indian have bad image in my country. At that time i didn’t hear them at all because i didn’t want to underestimate someone from his country or nationality. Now, after what happened with me yesterday i don’t know i can trust you or not. But thanks for your suggestion to me. you know it’s not easy for me and my whole family to forget everything about what he has done to us yesterday. It really hurted us very much. i was crying when i read your messages, the other side i remember about his crimes to us.
Maybe we need much time to be normal to indian.
About me, i am not a CEO like him. I am only a staff at a national company in my country, but alhamdullilah i can earn my all expenses without hurt or cheat to others.
But what happend? can u plz tell me what he did y’day? did u he do something wrong with u?
I know it will take time to heal up. But you have to think for yr future instead to bring yr past with every moment. ok. You even did not tell me from where u r?
Well if you like then you can write me directly at needonlyone at rediffmail dot com. waiting for yr reply.
amit
Yes, he did something wrong and very bad to me. But i’m sorry i can’t tell you what he has done to me yesterday. Let me keep it by myself. But i can say i agree with jaded about indian images because it happened to me. And it really hurts me much. And hurts my whole family also. I wrote my experience at this site because i wish it will be lesson to me for next time and warn every women whole the world to be more careful with them otherwise you will get suffering. Don’t be blind with their job and their educational background. It’s better if you consider their opinions ( family, friend or relatives ) about indian men. It doesn’t mean all of them are bastards, cheaters, players and fraud. And also it doesn’t mean you’re not good man, Amit. But after what happened on yesterday it’s hard for me to trust indian. I’m sorry about that. Well, thanks for your email address, i will keep it and maybe someday i will contact you.
i have a question?
hello Shalimar,
thanks for the reply. Well dont worry. But i want to tell u that with anyone ( males) either if he is from any country, you have to aware and know all the things 1st like his/her educational background, nature, family, post.
Because what happens i tell u very frankly, when a person lives with his/her parents then he is bound but when he/she goes out frm their boundries then he/she might be a free bird. That time they promise everything but when they talk to their parents, their tone get changed (especially with asians, i am an indian so can say about them and thats true).
There are very few men who can take their own decision and say to their parents very clearly like me, i am very open with everyone and whatever i wanna do i do. but anyways what can i say….!
But i am really so sorry about that person who really cheated you and giving you trouble. Well if he threats you then complaint him in the cyber cell and thats the good thing dear. I can only guide u.
It is 99% true of the post!!!!!!!!!! I have dated only one indian guy(also the last one) in my life, though at the beginning I already had a general idea of that most Indian guys are the biggest cheaters in the world(because I had dealt with them during past working experience in a trading company), but still I believe there might be a miracle or an rare exception in this world, actually the reason I tried to believe him is that I do liked him because he is really a good looking guy which is kind of not that typical Indian look“`he is smart and polite by the way, and he comes from a good family background as well. By as time passed, it is disappointing to know that he still shares the similar bad habits as the rest Indian fellows who is selfish at heart and not thoughtful at all, no matter how much care you give him he will not be remembering it and he think he deserve all this without giving back the same care for others“`but for me it is ok to get through all these bullshit because I had a bit prepared for it. So here I can not say all Indian guys are same but I can say 99% of them are selfish.
well waking up. I agree with you, even i have seen here the same thing and i do agree with u. Most of the indian guys wanna fun instead to do any commitment. This is not only for indians but this is basically for men’s. I am also a man 38 yrs single and into the IT and looking for someone but i will not go with anyone instead until or unless i wont feel comfortable with her.
If you like then u can write me at needonlyone at rediffmail dot com.
Hi Waking Up. You’re absolutely right. I felt the same with you about him. My ex boy friend is much selfish also and he never ever accepted opinion from others. Yes, most Indian guys are the biggest cheaters in the world include in the business and romance. It happened also in my country.
Sometime I really want to know how their parents, especially their mother teach them to be a human being until indian guys get and have bad name and bad image and famous as cheater, fraud, bastards and player whole the world ? As we both know, your mother, my mother, and their mother are woman also. And maybe they have sister and or daughter in their family. I don’t understand about that.
And for Amit, my parents always teach me to be a good person for everyone, with or without live with them because they always said there’s GOD who is always watching me everywhere and anytime and GOD will count everything what i have done in this world. So I will always try to be a good and nice person for everyone although i live apart with my parents and my family. I think it’s very wonderful if I can be nice, honest, polite, and good person for everyone.
Hi Shalimar, here I only want to say one thing to you: Let all those bullshit pass and move forward with your life. As a girl, we should love and cherish ourselves first before being loved, that is very important, live a happy life, be strong and be happy, don’t allow some indian idiots destroy our good view of the world, we should keep our faith and believe most people in this world are kind and nice people, there will always be someone there right for us, ok? As for those selfish people, don’t worry about them because God will “Look after them and give them what they deserve finally”. So trust me and we all will have a lucky future““Take care!
well i am an Indian and a hindu to be precise and neither me nor my friends dated any girl till now and all of us are above 25 and i am sure that i will be always loyal to my wife in case i get married and i am sure my friends will do that so as far as i know 80% of Indians are like that in your case he was not a Hindu and my i ask you which country are you from by the way if you dont mind me asking
Hello Shalimar and waking up,
I just wanna tell u that none indian mother teach her son to cheat anyone coz they also know if the same thing happens in their family then what the pain will be.
Why indian men do such kinda things. I tell you why? well in the indian society, we are bound to do things according with our parents, but when a person (indian man) goes abroad and sees the world on his own then there is no boundation coz there he is a free bird and then he does such kinda things.
But if they talk to their parents then i am sure that they treat them like as they are so innocent, so honest and this is the only reason. Simple thing is if u did not see the things and when you get that kinda freedom then you dont care about the freedom instaed to hurt others. And i think this is the only reason.
I have been hurted twice in my life but never thought to cheat or hurt to anyone.
Very good Amit if u try not to cheat to anyone although someone hurt u. I hope u can proove your word about that. I never think to cheat and fraud to anyone also in my life.
Amit, let me tell you about something. My ex boy friend still lives together with his mother until now. His father passed away 4 years ago. We made a long distance relationship at that time. I live in my country and he lives in india. According your explanation above he should in bound and do something according his mother. But see what he has done to me and my family yesterday.
I think it’s normal if sometime we broken heart when we are in love with somebody. But my relationship with him yesterday was not normal. It was romance scam. Because it was only drama. And he was a sutradara and an actor there. He created a script and decided by himself when he wanted to ended that drama after he got something from my side. So i want to tell you we don’t talk about a man who doesn’t live with his mother anymore and then he is be a free bird but we talk about indian men natures. Because their natures indian men get bad name and bad image in the world.
You’re right, maybe it’s basically for men to have fun only instead to do any commitment to anyone, but indian men are the biggest and the number one for that in the world. I’m sorry i have to say like that. But it’s fact. Amit, i have brothers also and my parents asked them and i that please never do something over limit whereever my brothers and i live. They asked us to be good person always even someday we don’t live with our parents anymore. And thanks God until now we never do something wrong to anybody and never do something over limit that make someone hurt because we know and understand there is always boundation whereever and whenever we go.
well shalimar,
yr right, do u know my cousin who is in aus he also told me that someone came to aus n he got married to a girl n then he came back and girl is searching him, even she came to india but that bastard sent her back with in 3 days and i am sure that he also lied on her. which is really so bad.
My cousin is helping her and i will help him. Even i told him why dont she complain in the indian police to catch him for his fraud? but she loves him, so she is not doing.
This world is really full of cheaters. and i hate it.
Amit,
For my case, to be honest i don’t love him anymore and i’d love to ask indian police to arrest him for his fraud to me. But i can’t do that coz he threated to destroy my life if i do that. And i’m absolutely sure it will be hurt me and my whole family in our rest time. I don’t want my family feel hurt again coz of him. So i let him go without do nothing. But maybe i can give a little help for other women whole the world if i wrote my experience here.
And according your statement above i get conclution that many indian parents are not success to be good parents for their sons, coz their failure to make their sons to be good person for everyone. Based on that i can say most of indian men have bad nature and bad habit. They do not know and understand that as human being they have to always in boundation whereever and whenever they go and live, with or without their parents stay beside them.
So now you don’t be angry and confused with people whole the world who have give bad name and bad image for indian men. And also i can’t blame my family if they hate anything about india now. I’m so sorry about that. I wish i am his last victim because now he is in relationship with an iranian woman. I don’t wanna anyone else will be hurt coz of him. But what can i do to help her ? I am only a weak woman.
Hey Shalimar,
Do you know if u complaint to the indian police or in yr country about whatever he did make promises with u, he will really be caught and also put in yr complaint that he can harm you and i am sure that he wont harm you. People threaten to people but they dont hv that kinda hear to do such kinda things.
The thing u wrote about the indian parents, i am totally not agree with you coz you are directly blaming to their parents, once you meet with them (his parents i mean) or anybodies parents here and will tell them what he did, seriously they will teach them a lesson.
I am also from india but dont hurt to anyone, so does not mean my parents are also like the same. See dont blame on parents but this is the new culture that when someone gets freedom they can not digest and want to take an advantage. So, plz dont blame on anyone.
I’d rather say that if he did mistake then you also did the same…! dont u think so…? did your parents also tell u to fall for that guy? did u ask to yr parents too? do yr parents allow you to intrect with foreigner…? was there no selfishness inside you that you found such kinda person who has a big post, financially he is sound? so this kinda things might came in yr mind too…? isnt it?
See, i am not blaming you but telling you that when someone meets someone then you can read their intensions in his/her eyes and that you can read it all the time when u meet. but u could not and thats why that happned but maybe somewhere else you had selfishness inside you too? isnt it?
Amit,
Always proof to everyone that you are not like typically of indian man who has bad nature and bad image in this world. Because so far i think you are a good person and you aren’t like them. And i’m sure your parents always teach you very well until now.
Now i want to answer your questions one by one.
Honestly i met him at one of site in my country. He was interested after saw my profile at that site and sent me a message to know me more and better and to build a serious relationship to marry me soon. At that time i wasn’t interested to reply his message. But i told my mother about his message. And my mother asked me to give him a chance to know each other. About marry with foreigner my parents never mind about it as long as we love each other and they never mind also if i have to relocate to his country to build my own family with him. Finally i accepted my mother suggestion to reply his message. The main reason i responded his message : he is a moslem and well educated and he always said everything in the name of GOD. Before i though he is only a staff like me. Because he just told me he is DGM Marketing and at that time i don’t know about the meaning of DGM ( later after our relationship ended i knew he is not DGM Marketing as Business Development Manager but he is DGM Operational as HR Manager. DGM : Deputy General Manager, is an executive of board at that co ). But yes, my family and i worried about indian image. But we discard our bad assumption about that and we were hoping that he wasn’t like them because he is well educated and religious person.
After i replied it, our relationship became closer because we communicated intensively everyday. He had planning : 2 months later after knowing each other by phone, messenger and email they (his mother and him) would visited me and my family to see me by his eyes and to introduced himself and his mother to my family and asked my parents permittion to do marry with me. After his visiting, he asked me to visit him also to see his reality by my eyes. And after that he came again to my country to marry me and then we would stay in india after marriage. But actually it never happen. To be honest i accepted him not because of his financial secure and his good post, but i saw he is a good moslem and a kind person at that time. And my family almost booked everything to my wedding party because we need much time to prepare a wedding party in my country. But unfortunately after he got everything from my side he leaved me. Finally i realized it was only drama, all his planning to visit and marry me is bullshit and he lied to me from the beginning. I think my explanation can answer your questions.
Amit, don’t you remember he is master degree in law. So i’m sure he knows how to avoid law at this case. Besides it takes time to process this case because it involved 2 countries. And i don’t want to take any risks anymore that make my whole family will be hurt again because of him. I don’t wanna see them feel hurt anymore. But until now i still save his email when he threated me to my preventive someday if something bad happen to me, include his pictures. Besides my family just asked me to forget him forever and ever because they always said let God will give him some punishments because he already created his KARMA by himself and they said the bad he did to me yesterday will come back to him someday. I have to believe that because i believe God and God’s justice.
And about indian parents, well i’m sorry about that. Maybe you’re right, none of parents in this world teach their children bad things. But i’m wondering why indian men are very famous whole the world as cheater, fraud, player and bastard over the years. That’s why i said most of them are not success to be a good parents for their son. Once more i’m sorry if my statements make you hurt. I never think to hurt you or others from that statement.
Hello Shalimar,
well there should not be any sorry, well tha was yr angerness and due to that u said the things. but its ok. But i wanna tellu one thing that somewhere else you were also wrong. And about me i seriously dont belive on any mouslim. and thats why the reason.
Amit,
I think if i’m success in my education and career and i have everything but i do something wrong to anyone that make my family get a bad name from others i’m sure they are not be proud to me and they will have feeling that they are not success to be my parents. But it doesn’t mean they are not a good parents for their children. That’s i mean from my words about indian parents.
You’re right i were wrong also. I trusted him fully. That was my mistake until it happened to me. And I’m regret it.
Up to you if you don’t believe on any moslem but here we don’t talk about any religion but we talk about indian natures and habits. And most people whole the world complaint about that. And you know about that.
Do you still remember what your cousin told you about indian man who leaved his wife in aus ? I’m 100% sure he is not a moslem. i’m right, am I ?
Well for the last time i want to tell you, my reason to write it here because i want to share my very bad experience with indian man to every women whole the world so then they can be more carefull with them.
I though you’re different with typically indian man. But i’m wrong.
this is all quite stupid
im sorry what happened to you Shalimar
but a lot of white women are just as deceiving
dont say stupid things against indian men
indian men can be bad and so can white men and white women
white men/women in many ways can be worse
so again no generalizing
the reason most indian families are adverse to white ppl is because they are afraid they will cheat and have bad morals
hence why as an indian boy im forbidden to date white girls even though i would treat one with respect
Well Shalimar, i seriously dont want to comment on anyone. but this is sure that i also dont wanna hurt anyone. I know this time indian mens image is bad like a loose character.
But do you know what? when a person does not see anything in his/her life then he/she wants to get those things. For ex. as here in india hv the different culture and when we see the livin relationship where 2 live togather and later whether you can continue or not it depends coz till that time (when togather) you both enjoy and then once you try this kinda thing then you like to use others. Which we indians did not see and when the men goes there they like to use women then.
And this is the thing. See there are many things behind it and those things seriously can not be described in words.
I think Indian men are cute but they like to lie, cheat and mess around on their wifes and the wifes are stupid enough to keep them because of the arranged marriages. I would not even consider marrying one of them …
Well judy, not all but yes most of them. I agree with you and this is not only in india but its all over the world. The reason is indian women like to adjust but now a days if something is wrong on the hubby side then they give them the lesson.
I understand what Amit is trying to say, the reason he is explaining is quite true. Why Indian guys always like to use and take advantages of girls when they go abroad is because most of them do not have any real love experience with woman in their life in India, so basically they do not understand what is love and care. What they think is that all foreign girls are easy prey and they just want fun, that is all and nothing more than that. That is the cultural difference which we can not do much to help this, it is the pathetic side of their culture which make them lose a lot of normal human emotions like real love and care for the person you love. So we don’t need to argue about it too much here, we should just bear in mind and be extra careful whenever we want to make a good friend with them or we have a love feeling of them. Only in this way we may try to avoid being hurt by them in any ways.
waking up i just wanna tell you that dont believe on the net. this is really fake. As i am using internet last more than 12 years and met a lot of person, who still are my good friend and i made a good network with them. As i help them and advice them too.
So, thats also a good sign of friendship for the long only on the net.
Now i dont trust on anyone to whom i find on the net, because none of the guy here gives the right information. they like to cheat others and that is really bad.
Hey Shalimar and Amit, get off the PC and call each other on the phone…….
Mr/Mrs Parry, if you dont like then plz sit calmly.
Point 7 Should be:
7. Despite their crude exterior and rude attitude, they are docile at heart. They are well trained by their mother to follow orders from woman of the house. The ma-in-law will run your life.
MOST Indian men are mama’s boys. Sad but true.
Hi Di, If people dont know about anything then they should not say anything….if u dont know about the indian culture then dont comment
Dear Shalimar,
Thanks for your comment on my previous post and Im really sorry for what happened to you from the Indian guy. But please dont use the word “Indians” to describe about him. Because they all are not the same at all! May be they have a bad reputation in your country, but there are at least some percentage of people there who are really nice and honest!
As I said my husband is an Indian and Im a Sri Lankan. We met in India , were in love for 3 yrs and even we lived separately in our own countries for 2yrs. But he never changed. He came to my country and we got married there.
But from the beginning his family is totally against on him to marry me.
When he said to them that he has a girl friend from another country his parents did not show any sign that they will be totally against for us to marry. But when he said he wants to marry me then they started all the drama! So I cant understand the logic behind it.
How ever I always respect him and also his family even though they did not accept me yet.
Even in India you will see many girls and boys having relationships for years even after they live together, at last they will marry a person whom arranged by their family.
Amit, Dont you think this should be changed in India? I know Indians are really nice people but when it comes to marriage most of them are narrow minded. Even the younger generation!
Also I would like to add: none of the parents are teaching wrong things to their children. It is the same in India. But Indian parents, when it comes to the marriage of their children; they are still stuck with culture, relatives, neighbors, etc.
They even threatening to disown their own child. So at last most of the children have to listen to their parents other than loosing them. Parents will black mail their children emotionally which at last the child will be a cheater or a play boy for their true lover! But the worst thing is most of the children will adjust their mind to marry a stranger whom proposed by parents and will suffer from inside for the whole life!
But Shalimar, I think your case is exceptional because you met him online and trusted him 100% . Of course what he did to you is not acceptable at all but you also must have been more cautious when he proposed to have a serious relationship by just seeing your profile!
But do not care about his threats if you have his all emails and photos etc. go and file a case against him. At least he will not be able to step in your country again!
Well Rushi,
I really appreciate yr views. Because i dont blame on anyone. Instead I’d like to say that none of anyone’s parents teach their kids wrong things about life. But people learn it as they come in the environment, they see the other people and then try to do.
I have seen many indians as well as foreigners (male and female both) who has more than one relations. and they like it, and if they like then whats wrong…?
See 5 fingers are not the same. Does not mean if u have emotions for someone, the same emotions he/she would have for you too.
I dont know about that man Rush, what does he do and where he lives? did u meet his family? Do u know there are many wrong things in the indian culture but maximum are good, like if i wanna get marry then 1st my parents will decide whether i am ready for that or not. Which i dont like but somewhere else its good.
But in your case Rushi, i dont know whether yr man told to his parents if he got married with you or not because sometimes people get married here and also get married in abroad too. I dont wanna put any doubt on you but tell you. it happens then none can help it. People like to cheat and this is what i hate.
Hi Amit,
Thanks for your comment! But I understand by it; that many of the Indians having a double role at home & abroad? This is not acceptable and it will not give a good impression on Indians! You should have think twice before giving such a comment. you have a doubt on your own people! Because I travel to India so often and having many many friends from many years. But I did not meet ANY one who does so! Who ever has a lover will be fighting for it or at last will go for an arranged marriage but will be burning from inside! This is what I hate specially in India
In this case Iam really proud of my husband. Of course I met my husband’s family and they knew that we were going to marry. But they could not stop us. Anyway one of his sisters really helped us. We are having a happy life & working and living in Australia.
But as you say Amit, I dont know how people will marry in India and in abroad both!! Because if you wil get married out of your own country you have to provide proper documents to the government of the country which you are going to marry about your singleness!
Ya if I have emotions on some one it does not mean the other person should have it! But it is not a chance to play around with others emotions!
And why your parents will decide if you are ready to marry or not! It is your life and you should be the one who will decide. Dont you think it is funny!!!
How ever what I can understand is you are also stuck in a mental block same like most of the Indian elders!
Hello Rushi,
Well i like to say truth and this is what i show u the indian mentality but people can not understand. I am very outspoken. See i am very open very frank and dont bother what the other says about me. But this is sure that i dont hv the double standard.
But i also want to tell you that for their fun and none knows about one relation and just checking (know to eachother sentence) where 2 start living togather and get satisfy physically and none knows about it. And then they promise like 1st we know to eachother and then after sometime one comes back and then there is no contact or he does not like to talk or contact then….and thats the truth Rushi. Which i have seen in the real life. and i hate it.
you said about me “How ever what I can understand is you are also stuck in a mental block same like most of the Indian elders!” about the mental block, well i said all the things openly, which people cannot understand. I dont hv any mental block but thats the truth. Even i am an indian but whatever is the truth i told u very openly.
This post is sick!. Not true at all. I think that the author is from a remote part of some village who is against Indians!.
hi, I’m not surprised to read comments about Indian men by jaded who probably watched too much of make believed bollywood movies or Hindi TV dramas but do not generalize a particular race because of a person or persons.I’m living in Malaysia and there are many Chinese women married to Indian men. Most of these couples are happily married. My uncle , cousin and brother married to Chinese women and they get along very well despite the differences of cultures and religions. There are many Indian men here married to Malay women and converted to Muslim. But the generalization of Indian men doesn’t do justice to Indian race in general and Indian men in particular.To Shalimar, I believe your “ex” is an insecure Indian as**** .So it quite understandable your hatred towards Indian men.In Malaysia, some Malay Muslim men behaves the similar fashion towards the women of other races. They married them, convert them then left them for second wife who usually would be Malay women.But we do not genralise every Muslim or Malay Muslim men are like that. In every race you can find either men or women behave such fashion but doesnt mean that the people of that race are bad or uncouth or less cultured.Shalimar ,what make you think that if you were to marry a guy from your race, he would be better than you ‘ex’, what if he turns out to be worse than the ‘idiot’.
http://www.flex.com/~jai/satyamevajayate/playboy.html
“…The prophet said that, “the woman can be married for religion, her fortune, or her beauty. So marry one for the religion” (Abu Issa al-Tarmidi, Sunan al- Tarmidi, Medina n.d., p.275, B: 4, H:1092)
Therefore, according to the Prophet the woman is either a creature who will be subjected to brutal conversion to Islam, a golden goose or a sexual plaything. Her virtues, intelligence or personality do not matter. But Mohammed did not stop there. He recommends all muslims to marry “one for the religion”. Now what does this mean ? It means that use the institution of marriage to convert people to Islam. Now you know why so many Muslim men marry non-muslims and convert them to Islam. It also shows what high regard Islam has for the sacred institution of Marriage.
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What you have written is funny but not true.
What i am going to say now, this has to be understood carefully.
India is not a country but a continent in itself. Nowhere else you can find so much diversity. Each state is different than the other in terms of language/climate/food/culture/terrain/people/society/clothing etc- etc-.
So men are so vastly different from each other. For example, someone from new delhi may be a classy person but u move 20 miles away to gurgaon, u will find wife beaters. This is just an example. So u cannot have one set of rules for “Indian Men”. They are all different.
I know a few extremely good looking girls, going for not so good looking indian men but they are soooo happy. They feel this is the best thing that has happened to them. I know a few of them. Indian men generally treat them with respect, and they just dont chuck them as white guys do. They are always there. Now coming onto the stupid topics like curry etc-, these dont really matter. Would u like to go with an asshole who doesnt eat curry or a good guy who eats curry. They dont smell bad at all. I eat a lot of curry, and girls tell me i smell good, and I DONT USE DEODORANT.
Overall, i think Indian men are good for white women. White society is full of individualistic attitudes. Husband wife are never as close as Indian couples are. Divorces, separations, etc- are too common. At that point the white woman wishes if she had someone whom she could really trust 100% and depend on, but then its late. Indian men usually dont marry divorced white women with kids.
So focus on broader topics,
White girls, Indian men are ready for u. Just find the right one. Some are there just for having fun.(diversity). Some are genuine(like me).
If the guy introduces u to his family, friends etc- then i think that is enough proof that he is serious. Someone who just wants to have fun wont do that.
ok ..ok..lets not trust Indian men….can anyone tell me ..
men from which country are trustworthy and best for marriage and relationships??
Well cool. See you can not judge anything about any man. A person who loves you, give you respect and does care for u, and you may find him anywhere in any country.
Indian women are even closer to their husbands especially when they are getting beaten by them…. !!! Whatever, I married an Indian man, which is one of the the biggest mistake I made in my entire life. From experience I can tell you that when an Indian woman marries she has no voice and has to please her husband at all times…. So my husband and I after 2 children and 5 years of hell with his family are going to finally divorce (my choice) not his. I can’t wait to get out of this marriage.
Cool,, your comment is so cool
This is the point that nobody can answer!
Well Rushi, i know the ans and i did it.
Very good Ami,, u got the answer without blaming any men belongs to any nationaliy. I got the answer 7 years back from one Indian itself!!
Funny entry but I’m taking it just as it is–a funny entry
Mainly because I recently met an Indian man who went here in my country to finally meet me after almost two years of correspondence through chat and emails. And I must say he’s exactly how I perceive him to be. He’s compassionate, respectful, hardworking and above all, has high regard for family values. A must in starting a family, isn’t it?
I think it would take more than watching bollywood movies or hearing/reading about Indian men to fully get a grasp of how it is to have a relationship with one. Spending time with the person, regardless of the race, for that matter, is the only way to know someone fully well.
Well Mina most of the ppl think that people are writing it here like bollywood/hollywood. Neither you nor me whether if those things are true or false. Suppose if you think thats false its ok but if i think it true and giving them the solution i think thats better. Coz none knows if bollywood/hollywood style becomes true in the true life.
i think it has to be in life with chance if god want you to have a beater like husband than you will have it if he is nice or not? sometimes you will see the truth after the marriage
he can be kind before the marriage and then someone els after the marriage the guy can be an actor so pray to gad girls and inchallah maybe you will find the man of your life
thank you shalimar for sharing the experience because i have sisters who search after a guy in sites and they think that the guys want a woman for marriage sorry for my bad english i just started to learn at school secudary
It has been 1 year and almost 2 months that my partner and I have been living together. Recently, he went to India and told his mother about me but didn’t tell her we were living together. He started getting replies from a Matrimonial add in his email. He swore that neither him or his mother put it. It may have been an uncle. This caused a lot of distrust in me. My partner tried various ways in trying to regain trust. I was very sad. He tried to even suggest that he would go to India and return with his mother. I thwarted that because of my distrust. It was very frustrating for both of us.
On 30/11/2009, I came home from work and noticed a suitcase and some of his clothes were gone and there was a note on the bed stating that he can’t see me sad, he loved me, he promised he wouldn’t succumb to pressure and he will give me the good news that he will marry me. He also said that that was his only option to sort out the mess in our lives. He said he’ll be back as soon as his mother’s visa and passport are ready to bring her back with him to UK. He asked me to trust him and not to panic. He didn’t even inform his job that he was leaving and sent them an email that his mom got in accident.
As you can well imagine I was beside myself in shock and grief. He has called 3 times since he has been there. The last time he called was last Sunday, where he told me he informed his mother that we were living together for more than 1 year. She argued with him. He told me that he is frustrated. But it was less intense when he told her about his former wife. He told me he loves me and misses me, I also made him promise that he was marrying me, which he did with no hesitation. ( previously he swore by his mother’’s life and by Shirdi Sai that he’d marry me). I haven’t heard from him since then. He told me he’d be back in 7/8 days and then sent an email to work the next day telling them he’d be back by end of December.
I have been praying and fasting , I have not been sleeping well. I can’t even eat. I haven’t had a proper meal since he left.
He has also blocked me from his email….
I have left it in God’s hands.
Hello Radha,
Well i have seen life very deeply and if he does such kinda things then forget if he would come agiain yr life. He played with you, with your body and with your emotions. He wont come and this is i am telling you.
you just have to beware of those kinda dogs.
amit
Hello radha,
I find it very hard for you, that your husband left you. I think you just have to be patient and everything will be fine.
May I ask you, where do you come from?
Hi friends
It’s true to the larger extent the points raised by my friend, am Indian and single, still look for a good partner, i have not found, am obedient to elders, hopefully i shall get marry this year.
we cannot blame a Nationality for the person’s behaviour , all the black sheeps are there in every place on this Earth, so why blame a particular country.
We should have a great respect for every country and at the same time love our country and let me more civilised and learn to behave gentlemanship.
Good Luck for all those looking for the right Partner in their life.
Take care
with lot of love and care
Regards
Boy from Bangalore, India
Dear Kawtar
That is what he’s doing!!!!!!
http://www.shaadi.com/partner_search/matrimonial_search/profile.php?id=SH04811292
Right now i’m living in the UK, far from my family and friends that i left behind to be with him. !!! And this is what he is doing to me!!!!
Bhagwan..please help me!!!
He told me to apply for benefits for housing, he is not to blame!! He has left me hardly with anything and all i did was love him and worship the ground he walked on!!!
Please take a look at the link and see this man!!!
He has shattered my life!!!
Hello Radha,
I am so sorry after hearing yr things. but telling u, u have to be strong and dont care about him as well, instead u have to look forward and if u find a new person but plz cross check him 1st and go ahed and live yr life happily. Or if u need any assistance then u can write me.
amit
Dear Radha,
I am so sorry to hear your story. Please keep on praying and be strong. He will get returns very soon for what he did to you.
I believe you are also from India so why dont you go back and clear with him what exactly happened to him? Or dont you have any other contact which you can find out about him?
I wish by this time you must have a good news!
Dear Radha,
I saw the site he’s isn’t so bad but, whatever he is, you deserve better. Can I have your email adress the mine is kawtar_7@msn.com.
Thank u
I am taking charge of my own life. I have a job. Don’t have that much money, but with hard work and faith in God, i’m going to be fine! He is coming back by 15th February, 2010. If he is coming back to me or just coming back. I t doesn’t matter anymore. God didn’t give me a mind and a heart to suffer.
Love to all for your kind words and support. Especially Ami, Rushi and Kawtar….
May God bless you always. Keep writing to me!
May god bless you too Radha,, dont worry everything will be great !! Just speak to him once he returns may be he also has his own reasons. How ever just clarify everything with him and dont let him to play with your life anymore. If he does not want you; its his problem and he is not lucky enough to have a girl like you!
So dont worry and enjoy your life, but be careful with your future relationships. Take care
Well, I would say freedom of speech has brought Independence to mankind in many varieties, some sarcastic version too. like this one(-:
well, look at your own hand my dear all fingers are not alike and same goes for every man (or woman rather!) of all races, creeds and religions….. looking at few guys(You probably know!!) does not encomprise all….certainly not me!!
But good joke to relish…..I must add at the end!
Hello Radha,
he is coming just for his sake…not for u…! maybe if he has work there…! really why i m tellng u coz people (especially men) does those kinda things…and u wont believe me that it happened with me too but by a girl and thats why the reason still i am single and after that i am not able to mingle with any girl.
I mean if you love to someone then you should have a commitment but in between if you back off then what to do…? So now i dont care, whatever is going on i just leave it on the time.
Hi,
A mixed response to the above messages. Folks have been hurt and some are happy. end ;life has to move on forward.
Thats it , no turning back. Belive me its difficult but what u have in your hands is a great day tomorrow. Use it make a difference to your lives. its a new day , a new window, a new opportunity.
I am 34m/Indian and was eager to marry an foreigner. I have interacted with a few expat ladies and find them cute, sensitive and am sure u can trust them. so that is why i was trying to search for a forum and got into this link.
I agree with guys out here, that Indian men have to do the balance act of having in life someone he likes and at the same time managing the complex family structure.He is given very little choice to take a call.
At the end if U really want to have it work u can, if u don’t want to u will never try and give excuses.
cheers and guys begin to live life for tomorrow, cribbing will hurt u more, depress u more..so look forward and have a wonderful life..cheers
Hello, Raj,
I agree with you! Unfortunately bad things happen in our life and once an Indian Guru told me: nothing lasts forever: no good moments neither bad moments!
So the best we do is to move on.
I have many Indian friends. I’ve been to India twice already. I love your country, culture and religion. And of course, I am fascinated by Indian man. But I already know that they hardly ever marry a foreigner.
So foreigners, watch out!! They are lovely, romantic, but their family boundaries speak louder and its so difficult for them to break up with their family traditional marriages arrangments, even nowadays. So if your indian boyfriend hides you from his family or is too traditional, its better for you to break up and look for a new lover.
Raj where are you living now? outside India?
Are you up to break up with family traditions and have a Love marriage, even if with a foreigner????
I have been with a man from india for 2 years going on 3 years and we are very happy we have a daughter together and hes the best i have ever had hes my soul mate. Were visiting india this year to meet his family and have our wedding ceremony there im so excited. our daughter is so beautiful. shes greatly mixed im from seoul korea im half korean and half mexican . I guess thats why we get along so well case of our cultures there so alike. i lived here in America most my life and of course i have the American culture but i still have my culture as in taking care of my husband as much as i can and no its not called being a slave cause im actually getting triple the attention from him he does for me as i do for him. All im sayin is for u people thats been hurt from an indian man dont take it out on others because everyone is different u can never have the same okay! Also to bust everyones bubble well i believe that our men all over this world should be above women cause they r our gaurdians wether u think its right or not GOD made man for a reason and he made women for a reason think about what reason tell me what u think but this is my opinion well mwah ttyl
hahahaahha.. you guys got to be joking!!
All the Indian men are probably exactly what you cite out to be. I say fight it. I say Indian women like pardesi gori go the other way and marry a non Indian.. fight them. Dont ever look at the Indian man again.
But Indian men will be Indian men.Whatever that means in terms of personality, now that we have a common personality embedded in a chip at the Bangalore facility for manufacturing Indian men.
But dont marry an Indian man.. especially all the Indian girls in this conversation. phew.. tough folk
Mixed marriages are a bad idea. I have known a few Indian men who marry outside their culture only to end up in divorce later on. Even in my family that is has been the case.
I do not agree with you.. I am married to an Indian and having a great life. we both have friends and relatives married to outsiders of their culture and having happy lives
the problem is not the vountry or the culture
proble will be If you are not made for each other!!
Hi,
I believe that not all Indian men are to be taken negatively but as for my experience, I have an emotional distress in a relationship with an Indian boy. I met him here in Australia. At first, I found him so charming and so loving. I fell in love with him. However, after 2 months things were changing. First, I told him I had a previous boyfriend 5 years ago. He could not accept it and called me as a shameless girl. He find it hard to accept that a girl could have a past boyfriend. It is just a boyfriend. I can’t understand why he acts like this. Then he made some rules to me. When we are walking, he ask me to look down and told me not to look at anyone. He never wants me to speak with male even to say hi or hello. He told me not to smile and be serious. For him, a decent girl is someone who doesn’t speak. Those who speak too much is not decent. He changed the way of my dressing. As for me, I know I always dress appropriately but for him its still inappropriate. He ask me to wear the salwar instead of my usual clothes. I told him I can’t. Maybe I will try once but not all the time. For this, he told me I am not respecting his words. He doesn’t want me to be smart in front of him. He had hit me on my head 3 times when we had a fight. When I told him I wanted to break up with him. He called me shameless. I never knew about Indian culture but I was really shocked of what is happening to me. I feel completely devastated. No one had ever hurt me physically but why did I allowed him to do that. He told me, in India, when a husband hits the wife, the wife thinks its because of love. What is this thinking? He told me, Indian marriages last long because Indian wives has a great patience. I felt very humiliated on his words. I feel sometimes that I just want to die. I ruined my life. I thought it would be a happy ending story but now I’m in a pirilous pit.
hey Ivy im sorry to hear that
im an indian man and not all are like that
i would let my girlfriend (if i had one)
be herself and respect her wishes
i grew up in Canada hence im i guess westernized and have no problem what a girl wears or anything and would never be violent
im sorry you had to go through this
please dont be mad at all of us!
holy shit..!!! this is.. lame… imposing rules.. on someone else.. this is something.. which is not totally.. acceptable.. but IVY.. i think.. u mst haav taken gr8 .. patience.. in handling that small.. town boy..
. im an indian btw.. as far as i knw. none of indian men.. impose sch kind of shitty.. rules on their gfs… i think u did a good job breakin up wid him.. haava nice time.!
Reply to Ivy
The person you’re dating is a Typical Indian Male ’cause he lives upto certain stereotypes about Indian men (notably dominating, beating, laying out rules for your “protection”, calling you “shameless” for having an ex-bf)
While there is nothing wrong in past relationships, he(your bf) is assuming that you are “loose” because you (may) have slept with your bf (virginity is still highly priced by Indian men)
I’d say dump him now ’cause he doesn’t respect your freedom.
Not all Indians are like what this blog says, but a majority of them are(I have a few friends who perfectly fit this category [:D]).
Dump him and move on. Hopefully you’ll find someone who respects your freedom and doesn’t harm you physically or emotionally.
For those whose hearts have been broken by Indians, my sincerest apologies to you. Just move on and find your true soul-mate.
Dear, Indian men are complicated.. the Indian man I knew told me about hit and that things, he said just like this: if my wife do something i dont approve, I will hit her. You can imagine my face when I heard that.
I loved that man, i really did. We used to talk by phone everyday, he used to say he wants to marry me in front of the holly fire… Can you believe that?? Well, I discovered he had a fiancée in India.. he was a cheater…
But I think it is great what happened…I thought many times to go there to meet him and stay there, I thought to leave everything here to be with him… Thank God all this happened before my trip.
Sweety, I dont know what to say to you, if u are not happy, just move one.. hit doesn’t have anything about love. Its like you are in jail in your own home… its crazy.. But if you really love him, try to keep a serious conversation, tell him what r u feeling..
Good luck to you.
Reply to Wourmis
I was really thinking to end the relationship as I cannot breathe any longer. I wanted to end my pain and move on with my life. I even think of being single all my life and I think it is better for me. It was my mistake that I ruined my life thinking he is my perfect soul mate and give up everything for him. It is true that regret is always at the end. I could not bring who I am before meeting him. Everything is lost and everything is ruined. I politely told him that I want to move on with my life but he threatened me. He told me that if I leave him, life will be like hell for him. Then suddenly mood changes, the moment I’ll go he will beg me not to leave him. The moment I see him cry, I can’t move my feet away. I am very confused. My mind says leave but I don’t have a heart to hurt him. Whatever hurts I experience from him, I don’t have the mouth to tell him bad things and I don’t have the hands to fight back. I wish I have the courage to move my feet away. If my parents overseas would know what I have done then they would be disheartened. My life is such a ruin now, how can I see the light again. He tells me he trully loves me, why cant he make me happy.
Dear Ivy
never trust a crying man!
Reply to Ivy
Well its a loser’s technique to cry and beg for another chance when he finds that you are drifting away from him.
He’s just doing this to control you, once you go back he’ll just go back to being who he is.
Though I appreciate your not wanting to hurt him, but he hurt you first which indicates he doesnt love you.
Someone who loves you will protect you and respect your freedom, try finding someone like that
All the Best
Dear Ivy,
I am so sorry about your experience. I am Indian I condemn this guy. This guy you are dating is shameless bastard. Ivy you should leave him the moment he hits you. If you need my help please feel free to email me at Shivam86@msn.com. Hopefully, you are out of his life by today. If I was living in Australia, if me and you were friends I would be doing everything in my power to stop him from abusing you. I could care less if I get bruises, scraps and whatever. But the only thing I would want is that you are safe and not get hurt like this in future than you were. I heard similar stories here in America from all kinds of people. Please Ivy be safe and glad you are not generalizing. Anyways take care.
i have a question are you all indians here?
Well, I dont know too much about Indian men. I had a “relationship” with an Indian man during almost 2 years, but was by Internet, so, I cant say I knew him.
The only thing i can say is: He had a fiancée, he was a complete lier, but I must say.. what a voice !! He was cute, and I loved his accent when we talked in English, he was smart, good looking and funny.
Indians think that their family is the most important thing in the world and they respect them a lot. I love Indian culture, I use to read the Times Of India everyday, and many books about Indian culture and tradition. I think its great, India has something special, but about Indian men, I dont know.. I didnt have a good experience so….
But the worse thing is I cant forget him.. he is like an addiction… Since I discovered the lies I dont talk to him anymore, but I wish the best to him…
To tell you the truth, i think a relationship between an Indian man and a woman from another country, can work, but is not usual…. the family have to accept the son’s relationship.. and considering their tradition, they will not approve.
I am not Indian, I am from Argentina, and what about u guys?
Okay! My turn now .
First of all, I must say its been fun reading this post and replies.
About Myself: I should tell you guys about myself so that you can judge a typical middle class boy with a village background whose father somehow managed to get out of the shell and finally I made it to America.
Looks:Fair colored Brahmin, with 6’2” height (a bit unusual for Indians),Athletic physique.
24 years old ,Software Engineer
Hard Working, Passionate about computers.
Hobbies:
Playing guitar,Painting,hacking Robots,Cooking.
# I used to study a lot.I have cleared most competitive exams in India and got the Engineering college comes under best colleges of country.
#Passed my high school being locked in a small room having lots of books ,a table ,a chair and a bed.Stayed away of any kind of entertainment .(nerd)
# I had a crush over a girl who is in very distinct relation with our family(doesn’t even count).I have never taken any kind of initiative .Even I become speechless when we get face to face .And all these because “My dad will kill me if he get to know I fallen in love”.I don’t know this may not be true but I don’t have guts to try and get exposed to any kind of serious social insult and betrayal and don’t want to put my family either, while I am not sure she feels same way.(6 years back)
#I grew watching my mom and dad fighting.My dad used to beat my mom often, till I got in high school and started coming in between them whenever temperature starts rising.I really really appreciate my mother for all the hard work and sticking with the dead relationship for the sake of my better future.This has raised the level of women in my perspective.Now every thing is alright between mom and dad.(I am against treating women like slaves)
#Yes I love My mom. and do most of the things consulting her.I am not MaMa’s boy but likes to get her confirmation on any action , this makes me feel more confident.Even if she don’t allow me to do what I want , I will try to convince her and if she wont get convinced, I would still do what I wanted to do but hide from her just for the sake of her feelings.
#I grew up watching Hollywood/Bollywood movies where Hollywood movies were meant to be Action movies and Bollywood movies were romantic movies.
#Since I got in to college, many definitions got changed.Now Hollywood movies are not just action movies but porn,action,art,science fiction,documentary and romantic movies like “Notebook”(loved that).While craze of Bollywood movies almost disappeared.
#I never had any kind of relationship with any girl.Just afraid, if anyway my parent get to know that I am having an affair.
(virgin)
#I don’t drink , don’t smoke.No bad habits whatsoever.
(Personal Issue)
#I think western womens are not so much needy with commitment.They are happy as long as both having chemistry going on and give proper space to each other.Provided, you should be very clear that you are not looking for any thing serious right from the beginning of
your relationship.
#I will definitely do arrange marriage unless I meet a girl,staying away from whom is like being in Guantanamo Bay prison.(honestly)
#About Women: I think, thats the most beautiful thing god has ever made apart from earth.
#Will never ever ever ever introduce my gf (no matter Indian or American) to my parents unless I am sure she is the one whom I can fight for.
#About getting a perfect life partner:Very hardly and rarely
two people clicks in spite of religion and nationality.
Now its up to you girls if you wanna date us but one thing is for sure don’t look for any thing serious….
Guys, I have an indian bf and we met in net only, we are 1yr and 4mos now and getting a stronger relationship. We have some fights coz we both far away to each other i guess. I planned to go in india in July and have 6 days vacation. He is from chennai, wat do u think guys? any suggestion wil be greatly appreciated.
Well Annie if you feel the same as he feels that good but you should be assure whether he would marry you or not…?
Because indian guy do promises but when there is the question of marriage then they back off. Even i am also an india but dont want if you get hurt.
Now if you are coming to india thats good. but tell him that you want to meet his parents and want to see their reaction. if you feel they accept you then i think you shoudl go ahead, otherwise life is yours…..
Annie,
I am from the same city and grew up there…some points about my city…
1) This city is one of the most conservative “metropolitan cities” in India. In my city, dating is still frowned upon. The culture is definitely much much more conservative than places than Bombay or Delhi. Did ur BF grow up in this city ?
2) Because of the above reason, many guys from my city are exceedingly lecherous
I include myself in the list as I dont wanna sound as if I am badmouthing my own city
Many of them never get to move closely with girls, even though this situation is slowly changing with the advent of co-education.
I will most probably never date an American because I know for sure that our wavelength/culture will never match and I dont want unnecessary heartbreak later. Afterall, we have no right to toy with the feelings of another individual.(sometimes, I wonder why I chose to remain so genuine
)
BUT, this may not be the case for many guys there….some may just be after a quick lay.
My only advice to you…plsss be on guard. Dont get too close too soon, dont lose your heart too soon and regret it later. Make sure that the guy is serious….I myself know many guys who just wanna bang white chicks and brag about it.
TAKE EXTRA CARE TO ENSURE THAT THERE IS NO WAY ANYONE CAN PHYSICALLY MISBEHAVE WITH YOU. Sadly, many people in my city believe that western women are “easy” and are loose on morals. If possible, keep your dates during the daytime in places which are teeming with people. Eg : Sophisticated coffee pubs.
Disclaimer : I have no idea about ur BF, so plss dont take this as the norm for people from my city. He may be a genuine, affectionate and serious person afterall. If he is indeed, that would make me proud, as I share his roots (being from the same city.)
Why did I post this message to you ? Because I wanna ensure that if something goes wrong (hopefully not the case), it was a chennai-ite who forewarned you
My city/country’s reputation is at stake
I don’t think it’s a good idea to judge people according to their nationalities….and i could hardly believe that there is any completely perfect or completely bad nation…
I have had a very sad experience of loving an indian man but i wouldn’t dare to think that all indians are cheaters or liars…It’s a great nation that has deep traditions, rich culture and i am sure that there are many spiritual and honest people in it.
To my mind, if we meet someone and get emotional or physical beatings from that someone, it means that he or she was not ours….
Hello Jane thanks and i salute of your views. Because due to few guys if you blame on any nation, that’s bad. I am an indian lives in delhi even i am also hurted by an indian, does not mean if i should blame to that girl too. Maybe if she had some problem, so she wanted to save my life and that’s why she backed off. but its ok.
anyways…
I met a few indian guys and they turned out to be jerks..I will stick with the American guys…
I am fascinated to all ideas and exchange of experiences about Indian men.I just about searching about characters of Indian Men in a site and suddenly found this site..
I am married and had an affair to a Indian men (an executive in one of the biggest company in India).I met these guy in Skype.He actually tried calling me and every time he calls i dropped his calls.But one funny day(funny???)and it was my bday he texted me and greeted me.Out of curiosity i checked him out in my Skype account and replied just to say thank you..he was so grateful i answered him back.and that’s the start of our daily chatting.He seems intelligent coz believe me i dont want to have Indian friend(im a flilipino).I dont like Indians.But this man changed my perception about Indian Men and Indian culture.But after a month he dumped me becoz according to him it is not right and i agreed coz we are both married.
In other words..I like and love the man.We broke up coz his son found out his affairs to me.But he made a way to continue our friendship..we even communicate until now almost everyday.He even send me money to buy laptop to be able to have a tool for our communications and sending a lot of gifts (especially novels that we both love).
My question is ..do i have to continue my friendship to this man coz my day is not complete without even chatting/talking to him once a day.We always said goodbye but after few days we end up chatting again.I love him more as the days goes by..what will i do???
Well Arian, i don’t think if this is wrong…you have a good friendship but don’t convert this friendship in love affair. Because you both are married and have kids…
So neither you nor he won’t like if your family get any problem and that problem will have to face to your kids….! so keep your friendship alive but keep away of this love….maybe if got me.
Well i don’t know why this kinda image (bad one) reflects of indian males? I am also an indian but i am pretty sure that few can take action against to their families but maximum can’t. So, before going in any relationship i would like to suggest to every female kindly check the guy whether he can go against to their parents or not?
1st they should meet and feel comfortable then i think girls should meet with their parents too.
Dear Ms. Arian,
You both are married and having a distance relationship (what so ever!!) and seeking for advice what you have to do!!
I don’t think this is acceptable specially for both of your families and kids. I don’t know about the situation of the relationship between you and your husband and of course between this Indian man and his wife.
But both of you guys seems like wasting each others time…
yesmyou are right..we are wasting each others time….i realized it already.Thanx Rushi..
I am in love with an indian man … he is nothing like how you describe them to be …
He is the sweetest, most wonderful person i have ever met in my life …. He is very well educated, extremely caring, not lazy at all, very witty and cute and has the most AWESOME personality….
I think you shouldnt generalize all indian men by your one or two bad experiences!!
I completly agree with u im in a very commited realationship with my man who is indian and im australian we have been together for 27 months he is also very well educated smart treats me with loads of respect yes we have our fights but thats normal he can be lazy but he also helps out he is cute caring and loving and always makes time for me no matter wat he has a great personality his family loves me and mine love him so wat people are saying about all indian men is not true because my partner is nothing like them.
Getting married soon cant wait
I have met an Indian guy in a marriage web dating site, both of us wants marry. He said he loves me, and like my outlook from the photos. I also like and love him because we have same hobbies. After chatting everyday on msn, sometimes email for 2 months, we plan to marry after 7 months.
During this half year, he does not call me, only msn.
So I urge him to buy a mobile phone. Then I call him using
my international phone card, but everytime he speaks to me in low voice at home, just like a thief which make me very unhappy. (after n times argument, he finally admit that he does not love me as much, but joking say 1000 % and now 10000 percent, which i do not believe although this 7 months we chat 2 hours every day, never stop). I know from his cam very well he is now living with his brother.
He said to me his mother, brother all accept our marriage in my own country.
He also show me by email he has already prepare air ticket
passsport, affivait document which prooves never leave me from india government..
But today I still feel not happy that when I call him, he says his mobile has been turned to “silent” mode and two times he seems pretend not recognized my voice, until I say: you are playing, then he recognized my voice, so I argue with him he does not love me, but he said he surely will married me and come to my country as earlier as possible. However after my complain, this few days he phone me 3 times a day, but i cut his phone and use my phone card to dial him because i know it
would be expensive for him.
Now I already to tell him to DELAY our marriage for 6 months i.e. feb 2011 instead of aug 1 2010.
He blame me that he has bought air ticket, he say he cannot live without me. But today I was very upset, I am waiting his phone call, when I dial him, he said he call me 3 times, and said maybe the India network problem so I could not received.
Any body can give me some help what should I do. I have
already communication on msn with him every day 2-3 hours.
I really like him and want further. But it seems his will and mind is very rigit. I cannot presuade him to delay marriage for 6 months because he claim he has already bought air ticket which I promised him 3 months ago.
Any one can help me? any advise?
I do not think it is a wise idea to marry a person whom you ONLY chatting with. If he is Indian , American or African what so ever.. First meet him and his family and try to findout if hes the man really made for you!
I sympathize with the ladies who have had problems with Indian men, but as a non-Indian, I can tell you that there are jerks in all races and nationalities. I am with a non-Indian man and sometimes he is difficult to be with. That is life. There are great men, okay men and horrible men all over the world. Trust me. Indian men are not the only men capable of being jerks. I think it is best to look at men as individuals. Also, when you are dating ANY man, you should take your time getting to know him before you marry him. Date him and spend alot of time with him for at least a year before you marry him. That way you can learn both the good and bad about his personality. Hopefull, he won’t be phony the entire time and hide his bad side. I am just saying, don’t make assumptions about people based on their ethnicity. You can find a bad apple anywhere!
Very well said Jeri!!!
well said. I like the way u described. short sweet & interesting…
I would like to see the OP actually gain the courage to say this to someone and rightly get eviscerated.
You are a coward behind a computer.
mmmm…the post is funny…i do have an indian bf…hahaha…yeah everybody is a relative to him even the girl who married his cousin of his second cousin…aw…thing is I am not an Indian and the heartbreak is not knowing until when he will keep his love for me because i know he loves me..but the culture knit is hard to break…yes everytime he fights with me and when everything heats up reasons become if not for mummmyyy i wouldn’t do this and that…but no matter how attractive he is but if he keeps being this way then maybe it is time to leave…
well i see the 10 reasons are an experince of an individual to a particular individual. being my self an indian i have freinds from usa whom i have never met and still best closet freinds on the phone or chat and lots of marican girls want to marry me. well i have been asking every one why wishing to marry an indian guy wthout even dating him and just on talks on the phone and chats or cam. well all of them had one simple answer.((( you are sincere , honest and caring))) not like westerners who are bound to be sweet thill they get married and then they reveal their true color a bit and when the kid coms alon so does many girlfreinds and another future potenital wife. trust me 15 years ago i made a freind and we still talk a lot afteter so long
now she is married and has kids. but hey who is any one to say anythign to anyone but all i can say is indian men have one thing intact.
10. They come in a family pack. You get a mother, a father, a few sisters-in-law, half dozen cousins, and countless relatives for free.
(This family pack pools in money in case of some emergenices and dont ask back and this family pack stands by you in troubled times)
9. They would never leave you. They get fat and lazy too fast and no woman will ever be interested in them.
(who says indians are fat lol , no offence but you should look at non indians) bu t any indian even fat is cute.
8. You will never get tired of hubby improvement projects. They come with countless imperfections and guaranteed to be really slow learners.(((( these imperfections are in regards to not life , just becuse indiands are intelligent and get good jobs is a reason they lack in other fields but i feel honesty has a price))))
7. Despite their crude exterior and rude attitude, they are docile at heart. They are well trained by their mother to follow orders from woman of the house. You are in control.
(((((Indian men like to make their wifes very happy so yes you are in control))))))
Hello Ji,
I am the Un married Ji. I want to Marry Ji. Please help me be cos I know nobody but my mother ji.
Will you help find me nice susheel american muniya ji ?
I read your top 10 list and improve myself Ji. I cook wash and leg dabhao you everyday ji.
I want to make american Phrends and speak in english with you phrends everyday. Promise. Mother promise Ji.
If you cannot help me can you introduce to your mother Ji maybe she knows someone good for me Ji.
Jai Mati Di
Radhe Shyam Tiwari.
And one excellent reason for getting hitched to an Indian (biological) male left out, I think. Marrying a member of that genus results in Indian women growing up and acquiring survival skills sharp enough to one day produce offspring socially unlike their fathers.
Indian men NEVER stand up to their mothers, sisters, aunts, and more distant female relatives. The poor Indian bride has to hold her own right from day 1, and in a decade she’s good to go.
yea , true, its undeniable that in India women are treated as objects, and even after so many years , women’s status is the same, sigh
Being an Indian guy in his 20′s ( still a bachelor ) , I would like to say that all the reasons to marry an Indian men are disgusting , uncouth and are designed to malign the true nature of Indian culture.
Firstly , I can’t understand why is the extended family system of India under so much attack by westerners and many Indian women ( yes , I did mention women here ) themselves . We have mix of both nuclear families and joint families in today’s India and what’s the harm in the joint family system of India.
The author’s very mention of family pack that the guy come with ( where even a mother & a father are separately listed and not as one entity ie. parents just to increase the count of guy’s family members ) makes me cringe with horror . This comment might go down well with westerners who might be used to single moms and single dads or some Indian women too might fight it interesting enough ( I am referring only to those Indian women with evil intent who are are conspiring to be home wreckers once they get married , so please don’t get me wrong here).
I would like to say to those women who are uncomfortable with the so called concept of ‘family’ of the guy , would be well-off marrying an orphan homeless boy or let your murderous instincts get the better of you and plan on erasing the guy’s family before getting married to him.
A word of caution though : please do it at your own risk , you can try the pleasures would be unlimited.
No husband’s family to deal with . Isn’t it ! Wow ! How wonderful !
Also , please women spare the poor mother of the guy .
What has she done to earn your wrath.The reason no. 7 that Indian mothers condition their sons to to be slaves of the women in the family is totally preposterous.
I think calling Indian men mumma’s boys brings to the surface the seething jealousy of many women and their intent on stealing their husbands from their mothers.
Mamma’s boy seems to have been coined by women unable to stand their husband’s love for their mothers .
Its better for a guy to be Mamma’s boy because he actually is his mothers’ boy and no one would want him to be his wife’s boy ( read : affectionate slave of his wife given to all her silly whims and fancies ).
These two points really stood out egregiously in the author’s article and needed to be elaborated upon.
As far as Indian men’s lack of social life aspect is concerned , then certainly it is not as active so as to include affairs outside marriage ( a majority of men I mean ) . But if the author ( I presume here to be a woman ) is looking at a very sociable born philanderer as her husband , then good for her.
I do respect women and Indian women so the above stated comments about the fairer sex shouldn’t be taken as a generalisation. They are not anti-feminist comments had they been I wouldn’t have talked so highly of mothers ( they are women ) .
Our Indian culture is unique and different and we need to respect it . Women of foreign origin who cannot fathom cutural aspects & family system of Indian society should refrain from making such mocking references to Indian men and their matrimonial prospects.Just because our rich Indian cuture and way of living has elements absent in your’s , that doesn’t make it wrong or a subject of silly humour/sarcasm.
Hi,
I am an American woman engaged to an Indian man and soon to be married. It is a challenge to be sure but also wonderful, and not sarcastically I mean that. I have been writing about my experiences on my own blog, http://www.amorysabor.com.
I find that it is an adventure as I navigate through the differences in our cultures. For us, we both met overseas from our home countries so that helped. We were both fish out of water so to speak.
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hey, so many responses from girlfriends of indians, where are the wives?
point 11: undergoes complete change after marraige and under his “family’s wing”….
I am in the U.S. I have been dating a Hindu guy from Mumbai for six months. He was younger than me by over ten years. I was quite hesitant because I know enough about this sort of thing to figure it won’t work out, but he professed so much love for me, indeed he even worshipped me at my feet! I never experienced so much love from anyone. He always asked me to tell him I loved him too, which I did so because he was so nice to me and I believed in his love so much. We even made a vow to love each other forever. He wanted to marry me. He treated me like his wife. He called me every night. He told his parents about me. HOWEVER, his parents told him to break up with me, so he did. 5 days ago, he came to my house and told me he loves me so much that he and I can still have a relationship – somehow. However, today when I reminded him we made a vow, he broke off and said I must never contact him again! What should I think? Was his love real, or not? I think it was real, but the love for his parents and the desire to please them is stronger. Still, if I can meet an Indian man who has his own mind, I would marry him! I have know two Indian men very well, now. The other one is nice, but after being very close for six years, he met and married an Indian girl within 4 months, last winter. Two times burned, but I still love Indian culture and I hope one day to meet a good Indian man like mentioned above. If you know one he can contact me at ut grad 78751 g mail
Hi Monica my friend is an Indian and looking for true
Bwahahahaha, i couldn’t agree more, i always knew that my perception of my indian man was correct, wait wait, it’s “karek”.. And i always thought i had wild sides and he’s totally my flip side.. Time for plan b before dying unhappily! Thnx for eye opener, harharhar!
Wow and people say america and even the world is post racism. but just coming on to the internet and sites like this shows that is not the case… believe me you all are racist. men of all races do stupid, idiotic things. rate an INDIVIDUAL not the entire group of people.
I find Indian women to be one of the cheapest breed on the planet. They have no manners, smell like curry, have racoon eyes, and would do any thing to get in bed with a rich foreigner. So? I’m never marrying an Indian woman.
not all Indian women u know…
This is the most racist and disgusting thing I’ve seen in a long time.
Brilliant.
Is it possible for an indian man (gujarati specifically) and filipina to get married?
im dating an indian man now.he is 33 years old.and we just started.i look many link about indian man.and i hv some indian friend too.i dont know him so well but he want me to live together with him.i did ask him about marriage arrangement by parent in india and he said no more things like that.im not sure bout my feeling now.i dont know.
funny..
Dear people, I have had 3 Indian boy friends, and I can vouch for it that they are big jerks. Seriously, I could forgive my other 2 bfs, our relationship had to end , because of the problems in the guy’s family (caste mainly ), but yea, that is one spineless thing to do to leave your gf coz she is not being approved by your parents. But, nevertheless, I appreciate their honesty, and I know that they had loved me honestly at least at that time.
I cant change the evil in him.
My 3rd bf was a monster, I compare him to the re-incarnation of the evil. He is an Indian but has lived major part of his life outside India (Europe, USA). I found out that he was one big porn addict, that also would be much of an issue. But, yes, he actually never honestly loved me at any moment, and I was dearth honest with him, kind of thought my soul is with him. I feel sorry for that more than anything in my life. Such weak people who just demand honesty from their partners, when they themselves are cheating behind the screens. He was bald and ugly , so I thought , he should have learnt the lessons of life by then ( he is 36). But then gals, never go by that calculation, at any age, and, even if they look ugly, they can cheat on you. I feel sorry to say this, but yes, this is the man I once truly loved, but sigh
Also people, I feel happy to at least see few successful Indian husband cases, God bless those FEW good men.
I realize that the ratio of good men to nice women is not equal, not in India at least. Its a sad state, but yes there it is. Most Indian men consider their women to be their property, and if you become their loyal dog, they will not reciprocate the same in most cases
. They will just go ahead and cheat behind our backs, at times , wonder how do such evil creatures sleep.
lol.. everyone is racist at one point.. i dont understand why earth was divided into countries.. I want to be free like a bird.. but anyway that cant be done.. we have to embrace the fact we are in the best times a human being can live.. no hitler, freedom of speech and action, android, ps3, motorcycles, theme parks etc etc..
I dont want to be an Indian or an american… I want to be an earthian..
also, one comment about the original post.. I have studied sanskrit during my 5th grade till 8 grade.. and then in 11th and 12th grades.. I get reminded of one poem (subhasitani) which is “Words conjoined with reason should be perceived from a child as well as a parrot. Those devoid of reason should not be grasped, even coming from Śrī Bṛhaspati (GOD) himself. ” in this context it means that be wise enough to know what is right..
anger only creates problems.. its love that solves it!!
Yes, and you forgot to mention sri lankan burgher men. They are cheap self fish mama’s boys lazy and liars and porno freaks as well. The Sri Lankan women I have met are greedy and cheap as well and know it alls with limited education. The women hate blonde white females and even though they have lived in the west for a while still keep their Indian accent. Also the food isn’t great either. They also are bogus refugees and crested a great deal of trouble in Canada. by being bogus refugees.