Over the years, Indian men got a bad name all over the world. Most women complain about immaturity, insensitivity, and insufficient evolution of Indian men. The demand for dowry did not help the image at all. The news of burning bride turned most women against them. But ladies no one ever tells you about the advantages of marrying an Indian man. If only you knew the truth, you are surely to see them in a new light. Maybe even consider them when you are ready to take the plunge. If you are already married, maybe you can tell your friends about them. So here are the top ten reasons to marry an Indian man.
- 10. They come in a family pack. You get a mother, a father, a few sisters-in-law, half dozen cousins, and countless relatives for free.
- 9. They would never leave you. They get fat and lazy too fast and no woman will ever be interested in them.
- 8. You will never get tired of hubby improvement projects. They come with countless imperfections and guaranteed to be really slow learners.
- 7. Despite their crude exterior and rude attitude, they are docile at heart. They are well trained by their mother to follow orders from woman of the house. You are in control.
- 6. They would be grateful all their lives; all other 37 girls they interviewed turned them down.
- 5. They will be available all the time. They do not have any friends or social life or passion to keep them busy.
- 4. You never have to worry about their past girlfriends: most likely they never had one, or in the rare case they had a girlfriend, she is too busy erasing the memory.
- 3. You will earn the sympathy of everyone, even your worst enemy.
- 2. They will stop harassing you once you marry them.
And number one reason for marrying an Indian man
- 1. For the rest of your life whenever you say “I could have done better,” you will be right.
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I liked the post..
But i must say that you haven’t had a taste of most Indian men these days. Points number 10 and 7 stay, but the rest….you could have done better.
Very typecast. Half of it is not reflective of the urban youth today. If you are hinting at the 10th pass Raju from Chapra district then I doubt if I can complaint.
lol..i agree with shrey…which world r u living in ….???
All I can say is that your observations are refelctive of the crude and unsophiticated image of the Indian male. An Indian male in 2008 is not as crude as you make him out to be. The village lout in Jhumritilaya, may be – but not the urban male.
The fact is like India, Indian male is typecast. India is all about cows, snake charmers (I havent seen one show in my whole life), dirty streets. That description of oriental India make us all cringe. Yes, we all know its partly ture, but all of us want to desperately show that the part that is untrue and not reflective of a modern India. We all want India to break out of the image mould.
Bashing the Indian male smacks of similar oriential mindset. Casting us as women beating, paan chewing, mother obsesssing, lazy louts is fashionable. Is it true? well partly – and that part is slowly vanishing. Please try, if you are unmarried, to ask for a dowry in the modern Indian marriage market and you will know how much India has moved on from the image you protray above.
The Indian female, I must admit, get the better part of the bargain. She is typecast of as the beautiful, submissive, clever, deft woman who is forever under the jackboot of the Indian male. Its not fashionable to call the spade a spade and point out the shortcomings of the Indian female. Calling the Indian female a nagging, unsophisticated dosent help readership, does it? But hey, you can do the same to the Indian male.
The western interaction with Indian male has been going on for much longer and hence opinions have been formed – some positive and others negative. The Indian female has not yet come under the scanner as yet.
I am sorry but your research sucks. You have just looked at one sefment or two. If you look at villages then that is how they mey be but very unlikely.
lol really good. Nice sarcastic nature
I just loved the 2nd one
Funny – and so true!
Most, not all, Indian men, both rural and mostly urban, are confused, insecure, pathetic, supremely lazy and cowardly; used to being pandered to by Mummmmy.
And of course most still believe that their Mummmyji’s are virgins. Idiots.
If I ever do marry an Indian man, he jolly well give ME a huge dowry.
( Important – I know a few excellent Indian guys who are v. courteous and wonderful. They are the 1& exceptions to the above rules!)
well whatever the perception you have about the Indian guys, i agree somehow. But not fully because now a days mostly are those who take care of themselves and are against dowry like me. I dont believe not to give and not to take even a single penny.
I care for my parents does not mean that i do all the things according to them.
If i get married to someone (either white or any Indian), as she will treat my parents i will do the same. But by the way i am not one of those who disrespects anyone.
You must be dreaming. Get out and about girl go smell the roses.
While we (men of indian persuasion and proud of it) will happily admit to some of your scarcastic generalisations, your comments presume, item number 7 for instance, is a bad thing. By the way my and your mother are women!! So yes our mothers trained us well and we are proud of it.
And by the way, when finally we come home to roost, the 37 interviewees are part of the show, we would have long since exhausted our natural resouces and grown tired of the pursuit of willing women.
So come on in, marry the indian men, we’ll look after you allright, along with the others, part time, that we still cherish and care for.
And oh, do join us in some meaningful intellectual conversation once, if, you can prise yourself away from the lip gloss and the flashy clothes.
Awwwww look at all these men opposing this…
hahahhahha
I loved it
Good one!
my boss is an indian national and i find him really atractive.swear! he’s only 26yrs old but
he is so successful.i really like him..! hmmmm..kilig factor!
@SID he is successful but u r not…! so your liking is fine but does not mean due to your liking, if you fall for him and later you cry.
Dont see others successfulness but just think where u r?
I can’t say I agree with this list or maybe I just got really lucky!
-Honeybee
well …. not all indian men are the same just like not all men are the same… my partner is indian hes best thing that i could ever wish for in every way ..*smiles* he will be my hubby on 20th jan 2009…
“people need to look at bigger picture in life not just single indian men out”
uh oh the blog really caught me off the tract!!! I have an indian bf and we plan to marry next year but goshhhhh…should i???
@eva .. DOnt you think that is teh question which will be best answered by u?
I can’t believe the violent reactions some people have expressed here. It’s clear that this is NOT a serious post and I don’t think the author was dumb enough to lump all Indian men in these categories. Loosen up people!
I actually came across this entry while I was searching for tips about interracial relationships, particular Indian and Filipino. My current boyfriend is Indian and we have talked about taking the next step. He doesn’t live up to the stereotype and we two are very happy together.
I’m marrying an Indian man for all 10 reasons…he’s worth every one!!! and our babies are going to be GORGEOUS like him and smart like me, Jewish
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The following comment by Simon from above should ironically be added to the list. I say “ironically” because he actually wrote it thinking it was a positive attribute;
“And by the way, when finally we come home to roost, the 37 interviewees are part of the show, we would have long since exhausted our natural resouces and grown tired of the pursuit of willing women. ”
In other words he’s saying; “yep, after dating and mating with willing women (as if willing women are bad?), we will return home to marry a good virgin picked out by Maa. Because Indian men should only marry virgins even if they are not virgins themselves”
Medieval attitude, and it actually PROOVES everything in the list!!!
you sound very white, always complaining about the other races. White men are the worst who beat their women and say it’s the other races that do it. Check the news you’ll see this to be true.
Well, I am dating an Indian, and here are my points to marry him
1. I have never experienced such an attitude as to the precious flower in the paradise garden.
2. He considers golden jewelry and beautiful clothes to be the best present for a woman.
3. He does not know what is cellulite and surely how it is supposed to look like
4. He does not care if I have extra 10 kg of weight
5. He likes to eat, and he is an awesome cook
6. He used to get everything by a hard work and is not going to stop.
7. As they are used to high competitions in their universities, he used to study a lot, he is an expert in his field and one of the best at work.
8. 6+7 = prospective feature.
9. And I can add 10 and half of 7 and 4 from the post list ))
10. And FROM MY EXPERIENCE with Americans and Europeans, I doubt I could have done better ,)
And 11!
He will not wait until his children will become 10 to pay attention at them
I agree! Indian men are awesome! I only date Indian’s and I can’t wait to marry an Indian man!
OMG ur so right, my fiance is just like that, i love him to bits, i think everyone needs a guy like the ones we got
I never have to cook again lol
I get gold whenever i want it
He works so hard
He’s romantic
He’s sweet and kind n i love him loads
You can’t generalize “all” Indian men in your description of them! i have an Indian boyfriend and hes so amazing. maybe your reffering to those traditional old Indian men, have you been living under a rock? get to know one Indian man and I’m sure your going to change your mind.
Hello!
Very Interesting post! Thank you for such interesting resource!
PS: Sorry for my bad english, I’v just started to learn this language
See you!
Your, Raiul Baztepo
I was just searching why woman want to always marry wid Indian guy but not tends to have fling or short term relationship.
Now I know the reason, but I think almost all true
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LOL! I wrote a post on why I had to find a firangi husband and your link came up in ’suggested link’. Loved your reasons, read mine too!
WordPress has an evil sense of humour.
ive dated an indian guy and he was so nice, thoughtful and generous at first and then after he became so weird especially about his parents like everywhere we go the parents must not know it. And he’s 33 years old but he’s still under his parents rule!!
My Indian boyfriend, Sameer, is the best guy in the world!
This is an attack upon Indians to push for separation between Indian men and women. Indian men should learn to be racist and protect what they have. Don’t think of this as being nice, or that racism is wrong, it is the one thing that will enable you to see things clearly from your own national perspective. You have to understand, war is not always with guns, sometimes it is with psychology, and this is one such attack. This is to put Indian men down so that the Indian women think of them as weak, and women don’t like weak men. Racism against others, kept in check and used when it has to be, aggressively enables you to protect what is yours, and keep it. Hate can be a useful tool, look at what has happened in the west. You had better drop this bleeding heart crap before you are lost, because no one else like this. Suggest you examine the psychology of women. If you can’t keep your own women, don’t expect any other to accept you, they will only look down on you, as weak people, and unable to protect them. Racism is not a bad thing, it helps define your peoples interests. Remember no women no children, think hard about this.
Indian “man”, a guy who has fun the way he wants to while studying here, goes to India to get married because of his insecurities and low self-esteem, because they don’t have the confidence of marrying an independent, beautiful and smart American (or American-Indian) woman and of course, they cannot control her (ther prime wish due to insecurities). Remember they are mamma’s cry babies and are cheap (ask any waiter) . Go to India, marry an innocent virgin, bring her here, pay her allowance, keep her like a slave but expect her to be an American woman in bed.
I so agree with this post… i see this even with some of the ‘urban’ guys of today… I’m a young woman that has only seen the negative qualities in all Indian men that I have come across and trust me that is quite a lot
I resonate with this post and this reply; thanks, at least now I know I’m not alone.
All the Indian men I have seem to be real d’s… ; however like you said, “Despite their crude exterior and rude attitude, they are docile at heart. They are well trained by their mother to follow orders from woman of the house. You are in control”…
mate ur soo wrong, how can u say this.
I really respect your research however it is very poor. I think you should be here to know what it is like. Stop looking at TV and the docs people show. I have lived here for over 28 years of my life and have not come across a single broken marriage . Every couple I have met is very happy. I guess you should relook at your 10 points.
jaded …
I pity you dude .No kidding , you need to see a psychiatrist .
Well my Indian fiancé must not be Indian then coz he aint rude, crude or lazy.
Where have you been living….pluto!
Please, the way I see it is you have had a bad experience with an Indian man, but guess what just like all men from all cultures there is assholes out there. Get over it, you cant bad mouth them all just for one jerk.
As for the last point you made…For me, you cant get better then my Girish, his a God send.
hey i have an Indian bf and he is the best bf I ever had! he works hard, had two degrees and earns well and spoils me like a princess. How can u say bad things… this is not cool! Racism should end! The world will always be a cruel place to live in if we continue such racism.
Don’t marry one. They’re selfish, inconsiderate and bring up stuff that happened ages ago in the present.
So kind of like American women when they get mad over something petty and stupid?
Well carrie carry on.
Maybe all those women complaining about Indian men being too controlling, boring and old fashioned should marry a Nigerian man. Then, they will enjoy hard, wicked , marathon most nights.
Oh my/… so true!!! I dated an Indian man for almost 2 years.. It was great at the beginning. But he turned out to be a serious drunk! Indians in America drink a lot in their homes, almost every night and weekend. He was very inconsiderate and a liar too.
But when he would talk to his parents on the phone he would sound passive-submissive and almost scare… This man was 30 years old. I am glad that I woke up and ended.
I love it! so true, you are so right Jaded_mind!! Well said!!
I laugh every time I read the list… hah
Refreshing!
I dated an Indian man. He promised to get married with me soon. But finally I knew, it was only drama. He is a hypocrite. He lied and played me. He is a CEO at a big company in India and well educated but he doesn’t have self esteem at all. He is player, cheater and fraud. He hurt me and my whole family much. He forgets there is GOD who’s always watching him. I will not write as to what he has done to me and my whole family because I believe in GOD’s justice. I believe in karma ( there is correlation between cause and effect ). So for ladies in the world, be careful and don’t trust Indian men, because they just give you suffering for your life.
is true shalimar?
i am sorry to know that..
just hope Allah will give you all best
Well, you were attached with an indian, dont u think if there was yr fault that without knowing to eachother ( i mean the family n all) you fall for him. You even did not ask about his family. See i am really strange that ppl make blame on particular nation and on national.
I suggest you that everyone is not like the same. As i am also an indian single 38 and into the IT sector and my thinking is if i fall for anyone then i wont hesitate to get marry.
Even i agree that few ppl are cheating and they only want sex they dont hv emotions. But you have to be carefuly coz when you enjoy then that time u dont think anything. So, be open and go ahead. Coz not every indian is such kinda bastard.
None of any point is worth here. U can not say Indians are like this, every where all over the world you can find men like this even in USA, UK or Africa !!
I am married to an Indian after 6 years in love. He treats me like a princess and I feel we are soul mates! His parents were totally against him get me married and they even threaten to disown him! But from the beginning to now he still loves me the same and stands for me always. Jaded, If you were kicked off by one don’t think the whole country is like the same. Of course you could have done much more better
You’re a luckiest woman because he really loves you until now.
In my country Indians are famous as cheaters and criminals. They do many crimes in my country. Only a few are good persons. That’s why it’s more difficult for Indians to get visa from my embassy than people from other country.
To be honest, at the first time i didn’t think he is like that. First reason because he is well educated and second reason we have the same religion and he always said everything in the name of God.
Before I never though he is a cheater, player, fraud and criminal because he is one of executive board at the big company in India. But I’m totally wrong to trust and love him. Because he played me just to get something from my side. It was only drama. The fact he never loved me and he lied about our marriage planning. He hurts many people here. That’s why i said Indian men don’t have self esteem at all. And after everything is over between us, i can’t live peaceful anymore. i always haunt something because of him. Sometime i think it’s better for me to die. But i believe God’s justice. Let God will give him some punishment. And that’s why i warn every women whole the world to be careful with Indians and don’t ever trust them otherwise you will get suffering in your whole life.
Yes, it was my true story. Now my whole family hate everything about india, include indian movies. Thanks for your support to me, wi. It’s very meaningful for me. I shared it because i want to warn women whole the world to be careful with indian men. Don’t trust them even they say everything in the name of Allah and have a good position at office and have a good family background. Besides they can’t respect women…so i suggest every women to be careful with them. Wi, may i ask you something ?
How do you know that i am a moslem ?
Amit, please read my comment to Rushi below. About knowing each other, i always asked him to tell me about himself, include his job, his educational background and his family background. Because i really wanted to know who he really is. Besides i tried to find out about himself from others, such as from his office mates. He is well educated ( master degree in law ), has a good position at a big company in your country and has a good family background also ( from what he told me ). But after our relation is over, God show me his frauds. He is not a marketing manager as he always told me, but he is a HR manager. See he cheated on me from the beginning because he was just playing games with me. He always said everything in the name of God and pretended to love me just to get small gifts from me and after he got it he leaved me. He can buy it by himself if he wants because he has a good job but he prefered to hurt me and play God’s name to get it than to spend his money to buy it. That’s why i said he doesn’t have self esteem at all. Thanks to God i still can keep my virginity. Thanks to God i’m still virgin until now. Now i just can pray to God to ask God’s justice. Because i believe God and i believe God see and know everything. Also I believe Karma ( there is correlation between cause and effect ). And i pray God will always protect me and my whole family from his other crimes. You’re right not every indians are bastard but in my country most of them are cheater and criminals. Only a few are good persons. Indian have bad image in my country. That’s why it’s more difficult to indian to get visa from my embassy than people from other country ( read my comment to Rushi below ). Now my whole family hate everything about india, include indian movies.
@shalimar,
I respect yr trust on him but still i would like to tell u that dont hate anyone in this world, Coz world is so big and this hate wont give you anything instead it will drag you and separate you from others.
I am also an Indian and to be an Indian I am proud, because we dont lie, most of my family members are abroad. So, we can’t do such kinda things. I always believe if I do something wrong for anyone, that means someone will do the same with me and i dont want to regret for that.
People dont think the same thing, but they just want to enjoy momentarily but dont think of others emotions but when they face such kinda things then they might know.
But anyways…If he hurted you then I am sure that soon he will be hurt too. So, dear cool down and take the things easy now. You say thanks to GOD that he did not touch you, if he touched u then…? Did u ever think about that…?
Amit, why did you edit your last comment to me that u already sent ?
Anyway thanks for your suggest to me about this hate.
I also believe if i do something wrong to anyone, someday someone will do the same to me. And same with you i don’t want regret for that. That’s why i always said i believe KARMA. And also i said i believe God’s justice and let God will give him some punishments.
But it’s not easy for me and my whole family to trust indian anymore after my previous experience with indian but i have to say nice to know you, Amit. Always be a good indian man for everyone.
Hello Shalimar, well i also believe in Karma too and if a man if already hurted by someone then how can i hurt to anyone dear…!
I dont want if u hate to anyone but would really like if u keep normal with everyone. ok. So, what do u do shalimar and from which country u belong to?
When i was still with him, everybody around me always warn me to be careful with him because as i told you in my previous message indian have bad image in my country. At that time i didn’t hear them at all because i didn’t want to underestimate someone from his country or nationality. Now, after what happened with me yesterday i don’t know i can trust you or not. But thanks for your suggestion to me. you know it’s not easy for me and my whole family to forget everything about what he has done to us yesterday. It really hurted us very much. i was crying when i read your messages, the other side i remember about his crimes to us.
Maybe we need much time to be normal to indian.
About me, i am not a CEO like him. I am only a staff at a national company in my country, but alhamdullilah i can earn my all expenses without hurt or cheat to others.
But what happend? can u plz tell me what he did y’day? did u he do something wrong with u?
I know it will take time to heal up. But you have to think for yr future instead to bring yr past with every moment. ok. You even did not tell me from where u r?
Well if you like then you can write me directly at needonlyone at rediffmail dot com. waiting for yr reply.
amit
Yes, he did something wrong and very bad to me. But i’m sorry i can’t tell you what he has done to me yesterday. Let me keep it by myself. But i can say i agree with jaded about indian images because it happened to me. And it really hurts me much. And hurts my whole family also. I wrote my experience at this site because i wish it will be lesson to me for next time and warn every women whole the world to be more careful with them otherwise you will get suffering. Don’t be blind with their job and their educational background. It’s better if you consider their opinions ( family, friend or relatives ) about indian men. It doesn’t mean all of them are bastards, cheaters, players and fraud. And also it doesn’t mean you’re not good man, Amit. But after what happened on yesterday it’s hard for me to trust indian. I’m sorry about that. Well, thanks for your email address, i will keep it and maybe someday i will contact you.
hello Shalimar,
thanks for the reply. Well dont worry. But i want to tell u that with anyone ( males) either if he is from any country, you have to aware and know all the things 1st like his/her educational background, nature, family, post.
Because what happens i tell u very frankly, when a person lives with his/her parents then he is bound but when he/she goes out frm their boundries then he/she might be a free bird. That time they promise everything but when they talk to their parents, their tone get changed (especially with asians, i am an indian so can say about them and thats true).
There are very few men who can take their own decision and say to their parents very clearly like me, i am very open with everyone and whatever i wanna do i do. but anyways what can i say….!
But i am really so sorry about that person who really cheated you and giving you trouble. Well if he threats you then complaint him in the cyber cell and thats the good thing dear. I can only guide u.
It is 99% true of the post!!!!!!!!!! I have dated only one indian guy(also the last one) in my life, though at the beginning I already had a general idea of that most Indian guys are the biggest cheaters in the world(because I had dealt with them during past working experience in a trading company), but still I believe there might be a miracle or an rare exception in this world, actually the reason I tried to believe him is that I do liked him because he is really a good looking guy which is kind of not that typical Indian look“`he is smart and polite by the way, and he comes from a good family background as well. By as time passed, it is disappointing to know that he still shares the similar bad habits as the rest Indian fellows who is selfish at heart and not thoughtful at all, no matter how much care you give him he will not be remembering it and he think he deserve all this without giving back the same care for others“`but for me it is ok to get through all these bullshit because I had a bit prepared for it. So here I can not say all Indian guys are same but I can say 99% of them are selfish.
well waking up. I agree with you, even i have seen here the same thing and i do agree with u. Most of the indian guys wanna fun instead to do any commitment. This is not only for indians but this is basically for men’s. I am also a man 38 yrs single and into the IT and looking for someone but i will not go with anyone instead until or unless i wont feel comfortable with her.
If you like then u can write me at needonlyone at rediffmail dot com.
Hi Waking Up. You’re absolutely right. I felt the same with you about him. My ex boy friend is much selfish also and he never ever accepted opinion from others. Yes, most Indian guys are the biggest cheaters in the world include in the business and romance. It happened also in my country.
Sometime I really want to know how their parents, especially their mother teach them to be a human being until indian guys get and have bad name and bad image and famous as cheater, fraud, bastards and player whole the world ? As we both know, your mother, my mother, and their mother are woman also. And maybe they have sister and or daughter in their family. I don’t understand about that.
And for Amit, my parents always teach me to be a good person for everyone, with or without live with them because they always said there’s GOD who is always watching me everywhere and anytime and GOD will count everything what i have done in this world. So I will always try to be a good and nice person for everyone although i live apart with my parents and my family. I think it’s very wonderful if I can be nice, honest, polite, and good person for everyone.
Hi Shalimar, here I only want to say one thing to you: Let all those bullshit pass and move forward with your life. As a girl, we should love and cherish ourselves first before being loved, that is very important, live a happy life, be strong and be happy, don’t allow some indian idiots destroy our good view of the world, we should keep our faith and believe most people in this world are kind and nice people, there will always be someone there right for us, ok? As for those selfish people, don’t worry about them because God will “Look after them and give them what they deserve finally”. So trust me and we all will have a lucky future““Take care!
Hello Shalimar and waking up,
I just wanna tell u that none indian mother teach her son to cheat anyone coz they also know if the same thing happens in their family then what the pain will be.
Why indian men do such kinda things. I tell you why? well in the indian society, we are bound to do things according with our parents, but when a person (indian man) goes abroad and sees the world on his own then there is no boundation coz there he is a free bird and then he does such kinda things.
But if they talk to their parents then i am sure that they treat them like as they are so innocent, so honest and this is the only reason. Simple thing is if u did not see the things and when you get that kinda freedom then you dont care about the freedom instaed to hurt others. And i think this is the only reason.
I have been hurted twice in my life but never thought to cheat or hurt to anyone.
Very good Amit if u try not to cheat to anyone although someone hurt u. I hope u can proove your word about that. I never think to cheat and fraud to anyone also in my life.
Amit, let me tell you about something. My ex boy friend still lives together with his mother until now. His father passed away 4 years ago. We made a long distance relationship at that time. I live in my country and he lives in india. According your explanation above he should in bound and do something according his mother. But see what he has done to me and my family yesterday.
I think it’s normal if sometime we broken heart when we are in love with somebody. But my relationship with him yesterday was not normal. It was romance scam. Because it was only drama. And he was a sutradara and an actor there. He created a script and decided by himself when he wanted to ended that drama after he got something from my side. So i want to tell you we don’t talk about a man who doesn’t live with his mother anymore and then he is be a free bird but we talk about indian men natures. Because their natures indian men get bad name and bad image in the world.
You’re right, maybe it’s basically for men to have fun only instead to do any commitment to anyone, but indian men are the biggest and the number one for that in the world. I’m sorry i have to say like that. But it’s fact. Amit, i have brothers also and my parents asked them and i that please never do something over limit whereever my brothers and i live. They asked us to be good person always even someday we don’t live with our parents anymore. And thanks God until now we never do something wrong to anybody and never do something over limit that make someone hurt because we know and understand there is always boundation whereever and whenever we go.
well shalimar,
yr right, do u know my cousin who is in aus he also told me that someone came to aus n he got married to a girl n then he came back and girl is searching him, even she came to india but that bastard sent her back with in 3 days and i am sure that he also lied on her. which is really so bad.
My cousin is helping her and i will help him. Even i told him why dont she complain in the indian police to catch him for his fraud? but she loves him, so she is not doing.
This world is really full of cheaters. and i hate it.
Amit,
For my case, to be honest i don’t love him anymore and i’d love to ask indian police to arrest him for his fraud to me. But i can’t do that coz he threated to destroy my life if i do that. And i’m absolutely sure it will be hurt me and my whole family in our rest time. I don’t want my family feel hurt again coz of him. So i let him go without do nothing. But maybe i can give a little help for other women whole the world if i wrote my experience here.
And according your statement above i get conclution that many indian parents are not success to be good parents for their sons, coz their failure to make their sons to be good person for everyone. Based on that i can say most of indian men have bad nature and bad habit. They do not know and understand that as human being they have to always in boundation whereever and whenever they go and live, with or without their parents stay beside them.
So now you don’t be angry and confused with people whole the world who have give bad name and bad image for indian men. And also i can’t blame my family if they hate anything about india now. I’m so sorry about that. I wish i am his last victim because now he is in relationship with an iranian woman. I don’t wanna anyone else will be hurt coz of him. But what can i do to help her ? I am only a weak woman.
Hey Shalimar,
Do you know if u complaint to the indian police or in yr country about whatever he did make promises with u, he will really be caught and also put in yr complaint that he can harm you and i am sure that he wont harm you. People threaten to people but they dont hv that kinda hear to do such kinda things.
The thing u wrote about the indian parents, i am totally not agree with you coz you are directly blaming to their parents, once you meet with them (his parents i mean) or anybodies parents here and will tell them what he did, seriously they will teach them a lesson.
I am also from india but dont hurt to anyone, so does not mean my parents are also like the same. See dont blame on parents but this is the new culture that when someone gets freedom they can not digest and want to take an advantage. So, plz dont blame on anyone.
I’d rather say that if he did mistake then you also did the same…! dont u think so…? did your parents also tell u to fall for that guy? did u ask to yr parents too? do yr parents allow you to intrect with foreigner…? was there no selfishness inside you that you found such kinda person who has a big post, financially he is sound? so this kinda things might came in yr mind too…? isnt it?
See, i am not blaming you but telling you that when someone meets someone then you can read their intensions in his/her eyes and that you can read it all the time when u meet. but u could not and thats why that happned but maybe somewhere else you had selfishness inside you too? isnt it?
Amit,
Always proof to everyone that you are not like typically of indian man who has bad nature and bad image in this world. Because so far i think you are a good person and you aren’t like them. And i’m sure your parents always teach you very well until now.
Now i want to answer your questions one by one.
Honestly i met him at one of site in my country. He was interested after saw my profile at that site and sent me a message to know me more and better and to build a serious relationship to marry me soon. At that time i wasn’t interested to reply his message. But i told my mother about his message. And my mother asked me to give him a chance to know each other. About marry with foreigner my parents never mind about it as long as we love each other and they never mind also if i have to relocate to his country to build my own family with him. Finally i accepted my mother suggestion to reply his message. The main reason i responded his message : he is a moslem and well educated and he always said everything in the name of GOD. Before i though he is only a staff like me. Because he just told me he is DGM Marketing and at that time i don’t know about the meaning of DGM ( later after our relationship ended i knew he is not DGM Marketing as Business Development Manager but he is DGM Operational as HR Manager. DGM : Deputy General Manager, is an executive of board at that co ). But yes, my family and i worried about indian image. But we discard our bad assumption about that and we were hoping that he wasn’t like them because he is well educated and religious person.
After i replied it, our relationship became closer because we communicated intensively everyday. He had planning : 2 months later after knowing each other by phone, messenger and email they (his mother and him) would visited me and my family to see me by his eyes and to introduced himself and his mother to my family and asked my parents permittion to do marry with me. After his visiting, he asked me to visit him also to see his reality by my eyes. And after that he came again to my country to marry me and then we would stay in india after marriage. But actually it never happen. To be honest i accepted him not because of his financial secure and his good post, but i saw he is a good moslem and a kind person at that time. And my family almost booked everything to my wedding party because we need much time to prepare a wedding party in my country. But unfortunately after he got everything from my side he leaved me. Finally i realized it was only drama, all his planning to visit and marry me is bullshit and he lied to me from the beginning. I think my explanation can answer your questions.
Amit, don’t you remember he is master degree in law. So i’m sure he knows how to avoid law at this case. Besides it takes time to process this case because it involved 2 countries. And i don’t want to take any risks anymore that make my whole family will be hurt again because of him. I don’t wanna see them feel hurt anymore. But until now i still save his email when he threated me to my preventive someday if something bad happen to me, include his pictures. Besides my family just asked me to forget him forever and ever because they always said let God will give him some punishments because he already created his KARMA by himself and they said the bad he did to me yesterday will come back to him someday. I have to believe that because i believe God and God’s justice.
And about indian parents, well i’m sorry about that. Maybe you’re right, none of parents in this world teach their children bad things. But i’m wondering why indian men are very famous whole the world as cheater, fraud, player and bastard over the years. That’s why i said most of them are not success to be a good parents for their son. Once more i’m sorry if my statements make you hurt. I never think to hurt you or others from that statement.
Hello Shalimar,
well there should not be any sorry, well tha was yr angerness and due to that u said the things. but its ok. But i wanna tellu one thing that somewhere else you were also wrong. And about me i seriously dont belive on any mouslim. and thats why the reason.
Amit,
I think if i’m success in my education and career and i have everything but i do something wrong to anyone that make my family get a bad name from others i’m sure they are not be proud to me and they will have feeling that they are not success to be my parents. But it doesn’t mean they are not a good parents for their children. That’s i mean from my words about indian parents.
You’re right i were wrong also. I trusted him fully. That was my mistake until it happened to me. And I’m regret it.
Up to you if you don’t believe on any moslem but here we don’t talk about any religion but we talk about indian natures and habits. And most people whole the world complaint about that. And you know about that.
Do you still remember what your cousin told you about indian man who leaved his wife in aus ? I’m 100% sure he is not a moslem. i’m right, am I ?
Well for the last time i want to tell you, my reason to write it here because i want to share my very bad experience with indian man to every women whole the world so then they can be more carefull with them.
I though you’re different with typically indian man. But i’m wrong.
Well Shalimar, i seriously dont want to comment on anyone. but this is sure that i also dont wanna hurt anyone. I know this time indian mens image is bad like a loose character.
But do you know what? when a person does not see anything in his/her life then he/she wants to get those things. For ex. as here in india hv the different culture and when we see the livin relationship where 2 live togather and later whether you can continue or not it depends coz till that time (when togather) you both enjoy and then once you try this kinda thing then you like to use others. Which we indians did not see and when the men goes there they like to use women then.
And this is the thing. See there are many things behind it and those things seriously can not be described in words.
I think Indian men are cute but they like to lie, cheat and mess around on their wifes and the wifes are stupid enough to keep them because of the arranged marriages. I would not even consider marrying one of them …
Well judy, not all but yes most of them. I agree with you and this is not only in india but its all over the world. The reason is indian women like to adjust but now a days if something is wrong on the hubby side then they give them the lesson.
I understand what Amit is trying to say, the reason he is explaining is quite true. Why Indian guys always like to use and take advantages of girls when they go abroad is because most of them do not have any real love experience with woman in their life in India, so basically they do not understand what is love and care. What they think is that all foreign girls are easy prey and they just want fun, that is all and nothing more than that. That is the cultural difference which we can not do much to help this, it is the pathetic side of their culture which make them lose a lot of normal human emotions like real love and care for the person you love. So we don’t need to argue about it too much here, we should just bear in mind and be extra careful whenever we want to make a good friend with them or we have a love feeling of them. Only in this way we may try to avoid being hurt by them in any ways.
waking up i just wanna tell you that dont believe on the net. this is really fake. As i am using internet last more than 12 years and met a lot of person, who still are my good friend and i made a good network with them. As i help them and advice them too.
So, thats also a good sign of friendship for the long only on the net.
Now i dont trust on anyone to whom i find on the net, because none of the guy here gives the right information. they like to cheat others and that is really bad.
Hey Shalimar and Amit, get off the PC and call each other on the phone…….
Mr/Mrs Parry, if you dont like then plz sit calmly.
Point 7 Should be:
7. Despite their crude exterior and rude attitude, they are docile at heart. They are well trained by their mother to follow orders from woman of the house. The ma-in-law will run your life.
MOST Indian men are mama’s boys. Sad but true.
Hi Di, If people dont know about anything then they should not say anything….if u dont know about the indian culture then dont comment
Dear Shalimar,
Thanks for your comment on my previous post and Im really sorry for what happened to you from the Indian guy. But please dont use the word “Indians” to describe about him. Because they all are not the same at all! May be they have a bad reputation in your country, but there are at least some percentage of people there who are really nice and honest!
As I said my husband is an Indian and Im a Sri Lankan. We met in India , were in love for 3 yrs and even we lived separately in our own countries for 2yrs. But he never changed. He came to my country and we got married there.
But from the beginning his family is totally against on him to marry me.
When he said to them that he has a girl friend from another country his parents did not show any sign that they will be totally against for us to marry. But when he said he wants to marry me then they started all the drama! So I cant understand the logic behind it.
How ever I always respect him and also his family even though they did not accept me yet.
Even in India you will see many girls and boys having relationships for years even after they live together, at last they will marry a person whom arranged by their family.
Amit, Dont you think this should be changed in India? I know Indians are really nice people but when it comes to marriage most of them are narrow minded. Even the younger generation!
Also I would like to add: none of the parents are teaching wrong things to their children. It is the same in India. But Indian parents, when it comes to the marriage of their children; they are still stuck with culture, relatives, neighbors, etc.
They even threatening to disown their own child. So at last most of the children have to listen to their parents other than loosing them. Parents will black mail their children emotionally which at last the child will be a cheater or a play boy for their true lover! But the worst thing is most of the children will adjust their mind to marry a stranger whom proposed by parents and will suffer from inside for the whole life!
But Shalimar, I think your case is exceptional because you met him online and trusted him 100% . Of course what he did to you is not acceptable at all but you also must have been more cautious when he proposed to have a serious relationship by just seeing your profile!
But do not care about his threats if you have his all emails and photos etc. go and file a case against him. At least he will not be able to step in your country again!
Well Rushi,
I really appreciate yr views. Because i dont blame on anyone. Instead I’d like to say that none of anyone’s parents teach their kids wrong things about life. But people learn it as they come in the environment, they see the other people and then try to do.
I have seen many indians as well as foreigners (male and female both) who has more than one relations. and they like it, and if they like then whats wrong…?
See 5 fingers are not the same. Does not mean if u have emotions for someone, the same emotions he/she would have for you too.
I dont know about that man Rush, what does he do and where he lives? did u meet his family? Do u know there are many wrong things in the indian culture but maximum are good, like if i wanna get marry then 1st my parents will decide whether i am ready for that or not. Which i dont like but somewhere else its good.
But in your case Rushi, i dont know whether yr man told to his parents if he got married with you or not because sometimes people get married here and also get married in abroad too. I dont wanna put any doubt on you but tell you. it happens then none can help it. People like to cheat and this is what i hate.
Hi Amit,
Thanks for your comment! But I understand by it; that many of the Indians having a double role at home & abroad? This is not acceptable and it will not give a good impression on Indians! You should have think twice before giving such a comment. you have a doubt on your own people! Because I travel to India so often and having many many friends from many years. But I did not meet ANY one who does so! Who ever has a lover will be fighting for it or at last will go for an arranged marriage but will be burning from inside! This is what I hate specially in India
In this case Iam really proud of my husband. Of course I met my husband’s family and they knew that we were going to marry. But they could not stop us. Anyway one of his sisters really helped us. We are having a happy life & working and living in Australia.
But as you say Amit, I dont know how people will marry in India and in abroad both!! Because if you wil get married out of your own country you have to provide proper documents to the government of the country which you are going to marry about your singleness!
Ya if I have emotions on some one it does not mean the other person should have it! But it is not a chance to play around with others emotions!
And why your parents will decide if you are ready to marry or not! It is your life and you should be the one who will decide. Dont you think it is funny!!!
How ever what I can understand is you are also stuck in a mental block same like most of the Indian elders!
Hello Rushi,
Well i like to say truth and this is what i show u the indian mentality but people can not understand. I am very outspoken. See i am very open very frank and dont bother what the other says about me. But this is sure that i dont hv the double standard.
But i also want to tell you that for their fun and none knows about one relation and just checking (know to eachother sentence) where 2 start living togather and get satisfy physically and none knows about it. And then they promise like 1st we know to eachother and then after sometime one comes back and then there is no contact or he does not like to talk or contact then….and thats the truth Rushi. Which i have seen in the real life. and i hate it.
you said about me “How ever what I can understand is you are also stuck in a mental block same like most of the Indian elders!” about the mental block, well i said all the things openly, which people cannot understand. I dont hv any mental block but thats the truth. Even i am an indian but whatever is the truth i told u very openly.
This post is sick!. Not true at all. I think that the author is from a remote part of some village who is against Indians!.
hi, I’m not surprised to read comments about Indian men by jaded who probably watched too much of make believed bollywood movies or Hindi TV dramas but do not generalize a particular race because of a person or persons.I’m living in Malaysia and there are many Chinese women married to Indian men. Most of these couples are happily married. My uncle , cousin and brother married to Chinese women and they get along very well despite the differences of cultures and religions. There are many Indian men here married to Malay women and converted to Muslim. But the generalization of Indian men doesn’t do justice to Indian race in general and Indian men in particular.To Shalimar, I believe your “ex” is an insecure Indian as**** .So it quite understandable your hatred towards Indian men.In Malaysia, some Malay Muslim men behaves the similar fashion towards the women of other races. They married them, convert them then left them for second wife who usually would be Malay women.But we do not genralise every Muslim or Malay Muslim men are like that. In every race you can find either men or women behave such fashion but doesnt mean that the people of that race are bad or uncouth or less cultured.Shalimar ,what make you think that if you were to marry a guy from your race, he would be better than you ‘ex’, what if he turns out to be worse than the ‘idiot’.
What you have written is funny but not true.
What i am going to say now, this has to be understood carefully.
India is not a country but a continent in itself. Nowhere else you can find so much diversity. Each state is different than the other in terms of language/climate/food/culture/terrain/people/society/clothing etc- etc-.
So men are so vastly different from each other. For example, someone from new delhi may be a classy person but u move 20 miles away to gurgaon, u will find wife beaters. This is just an example. So u cannot have one set of rules for “Indian Men”. They are all different.
I know a few extremely good looking girls, going for not so good looking indian men but they are soooo happy. They feel this is the best thing that has happened to them. I know a few of them. Indian men generally treat them with respect, and they just dont chuck them as white guys do. They are always there. Now coming onto the stupid topics like curry etc-, these dont really matter. Would u like to go with an asshole who doesnt eat curry or a good guy who eats curry. They dont smell bad at all. I eat a lot of curry, and girls tell me i smell good, and I DONT USE DEODORANT.
Overall, i think Indian men are good for white women. White society is full of individualistic attitudes. Husband wife are never as close as Indian couples are. Divorces, separations, etc- are too common. At that point the white woman wishes if she had someone whom she could really trust 100% and depend on, but then its late. Indian men usually dont marry divorced white women with kids.
So focus on broader topics,
White girls, Indian men are ready for u. Just find the right one. Some are there just for having fun.(diversity). Some are genuine(like me).
If the guy introduces u to his family, friends etc- then i think that is enough proof that he is serious. Someone who just wants to have fun wont do that.